Newbie bi-curious checking in from Toronto

[The Doctor]

I'm new to the forum. I'm a fifty-year-old married man with one grown son. I have not had sex or any kind of relationship outside my marriage -- almost 23 years. Prior to marriage I had sex with three different men -- this was in my twenties. My wife knows about this. She too had some flings with women back in the day.

Over the last number of months, I've become aware of increasing desires to be intimate with another man. My wife is not aware of this, and I'll carefully consider telling her this in time.

For now, I decided to join this forum as a means of getting to know others like me. I've set up a profile, so please feel free to PM, or just reply here.

Hoping to get to know you -- and myself -- better.

[lvmalelooking]

I am 54 and also married. Over the past few years I have had increasing desires to be intimate with a man. I find myself fantasizing about it a lot. I casually mentioned it to my wife by asking her what she thought about bi-sexual men together and the response I got gave me the impression that she is very much against this type of relationship, so rather than cause any problems with her I have decided to go it alone for now and seek my first experience with a man.

I have thought about this a lot and find myself getting very excited when I do. It is something I want to experience very badly. I also am new to this site and just trying to figure out how to get around in here.

[Tonybare]

Well there are lots of erudite folks on here who I am sure will set your mind at rest. Personally I would give it a try before you open up to your wife as you might decide its not for you.
Welcome and good luck

[raistkit]

please, please, do try to keep an open dialogue with your wife, before you decide to go it alone. communication is the key, trust me on this one

kit

[The Doctor]

Thanks everyone. I appreciate the feedback. i'm starting to get some PMs and emails as well. It's really helpful just connecting with people similar to me.

Regards.

[Realist]

Welcome, Doc....you've found a great place and some wonderful folks, too. Like any other public place, we have a few trolls and detractors, too. Take what you need, be true to yourself, and ignore the ones who try to bug you.

There's hundreds of posts you may find interesting, too.

[roy m cox]

"HI" doctor "waves" a paw and welcome :)

:bipride::bipride::bipride::bipride::bipride:

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Welcome to the group Sweetie, and PLEASE dont hold anything back from your lady. Lying is the same as cheating, and thats not right in anybody's book. Bring up the idea to her and see if she's all for it..ya never know. :}
Good luck hon. Play hard, but play safe at all costs. ;)
Cat
Everybody's Feline.

[The Doctor]

I hope no one minds my bumping up an old thread, but, Cherokee_Mountaincat, you were right. I had a talk with my wife tonight. I am out to her. She is completely supportive. I am so happy, not because I am free to pursue my interest in men, but because I've been reminded at just the right time in my life that I am blessed with a loving partner.


Welcome to the group Sweetie, and PLEASE dont hold anything back from your lady. Lying is the same as cheating, and thats not right in anybody's book. Bring up the idea to her and see if she's all for it..ya never know. :}
Good luck hon. Play hard, but play safe at all costs. ;)
Cat
Everybody's Feline.

[falcondfw]

Damn. That's just awesome Doc. Nice to have validation for the decision you made so many years ago on which woman to marry. She's a special one.

[Brian]

Very cool Doc!

- Drew :paw:

[*pan*]

honesty is the best policy lol

[jonibotom]

Where does one start with exploring their sexuality? For many years I could not admit to being bisexual ( I still have not tried bi sex). All my erotic and emotionaly satisfying relationships with women have been sexually submissive or somewhat so: very quickly I would be put into panties; the women in my life realized that long before I did. I preform very well but need to be told what to do. So what will happen if I have sex with a man.. I still love sex with women.. will I loose that by being bi?

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Pecks the Doctor's cheek.* Very cool Honey. :love87:
So much better than just slinking around behind the Lady's back, and who knows...she may even be interested in participating or observing sometime with the right man..:}
Have fun Sugar..:}
Cat

[The Doctor]

You got that right, sweet-pea. {reaches over and scratches the cat's ears}



So much better than just slinking around behind the Lady's back...
Have fun Sugar..:}
Cat

[Herculoid Poirot]

Do you have any agreement yet about opening up the marriage? I'm in negotiations at the moment, fingers crossed.

[The Doctor]

Herc,

I'm happy to speak for myself; not so comfortable talking out in the open about my missus. PM me, and I'll do what I can to answer specific questions.


Do you have any agreement yet about opening up the marriage? I'm in negotiations at the moment, fingers crossed.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Very cool Sweetie, and be careful bout scratching or caressing my ears, its causes problems. (Hush Rich) lol
Cat

[The Doctor]

Anything like what, lobopatrick?


I've never been to anything like that before.

[The Doctor]

I've started a blog (http://www.bisexual.com/forum/blog.php?125908-Out) about coming out.