Oke bisexual... But with what sex do i start a relationship?

[morandi]

Yes... its difficult for me. Last saturday i had a onenight stand with a women.
I was drunk and we ended in my bed. We had sex but it was not much arrousing for me. I couldn't get hard that easy. I think women are beautyfull and i like to kiss and cuddle with them it gives me warmth, But it seems thats all.
When i was younger they arroused me very much. Last five years it feels like that i like the flirt and get them into bed, but from that point it seems that all sexual things i do are just to please them. For my self i get nothing out of it.
The morning after i was really confused. I didn't know what to think of it. I even couldn't say i liked it or not. And this is not the first time with women. With men i never be confused i always like it. I only have problem with them to find one to fall in love with. What is you're opinion? Did i become gay?

[tenni]

hmm Well, being drunk is not a good point to evaluate your sexuality from or your sexual performance. I've read a few of the other threads that you have started and you do seem to be wondering where you "fit in".

Do you perceive yourself as more emotionally aroused by men than women? This thread content makes me think that.

As far as being pleased by sex with a woman or a man, maybe the woman is not "performing" the way that you want? If it is basically that men sexually arouse you more in your imagination, then explore relationships with men more for awhile and stay out of bed with women...lol As far as finding a guy for more than a one night stand, yes that can be a challenge. I don't know your culture but I suspect that it may be even more difficult in your culture. Don't worry about fitting into a box. Just explore your sexuality and enjoy which ever gender or person that you are with.

[elian]

While I don't find one night stands very fulfilling they can be educational.

However, I have heard that drink, and I know that nervousness affect sexual arousal and performance so I'm not sure that you should judge this one time with a woman as a definitive answer. I'm not sure, but if you like men more, than try more relationships with them.

I think it is possible to be aroused vs. "go through the motions" with either gender, at least for me I have found that to be true.

[wanderingrichard2]

morandi,
do not fool yourself into thinkng you can "become" anything becuase of this. plus, as stated earlier, drunkeness is not a good perspective to evaluate from.

which sex do you feel more comfortable with? not only being around in general, but also social interaction such as dancing, clubbing, etc? sit down, thnk that out, then start from there.

[sammie19]

With relationships rather than single encounters, does it not depend on how you are attracted to whoever it may be? I suggest you don't prescribe the sex of that relationship, I suggest you take things as they come and see what happens.

[ErosUrge]

Yes, I can only agree with what others have pointed out. I had the same situation happen just a couple of months ago and with a woman I've known for many years. We'd not seen each other in years and hadn't had sex in 20 years...we began seeing one another again and one of those nights of our sexual encounters, we'd both been drinking a bit much and I was having difficulty maintaining an erection. It bothered me at the time of course as I didn't want to let her down and wanted to enjoy the pleasure of the moment with her. Though it affected me at the time, I was able to make peace with the realization that the alcohol had indeed been the reason for it happening. It's strange how that works because sometimes it doesn't impact. But when it does, it's easy to recognize....

It's definitely not something to sort out who you should get into a relationship with concerning which gender....not in my opinion anyway. A slower approach would be better....best to you.