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[curious64]

Most of my life I thought I was just bi curious but I now relize I am bi sexual. I really want to have sex with a guy more specificly I want to swallow a load as well as get a facial. My problem is I am married and my wife does not know I am bi nor would she understand. I really want to blow a guy but I am worried if I do I will feel real guilty. The thought of another guy consumes me and maybe if I do blow a guy it will quench my appetitie for a while, I dont know. Thanks for any advice

[Jobelorocks]

Well I certainly do advise you not to do anything behind your wife's back. This will only hurt your marriage and hurt your wife. I really don't think that there is an easy answer to this. Either you talk to your wife and hope that in time she will gain understanding and be okay with you doing things with other men, or you do things behind your wife's back and put your marriage in a dire situation.

If I were you I would try to ease your way into a conversation about sexuality and be open and honest with her about your own. Who knows, maybe you will be pleasantly surprised. I came out to my husband after we were married and I was fearful because he is very religious, but he was very understanding, accepting, and totally cool with me being with other women.

[tenni]

There seems to be a huge difference between how male bisexuals are treated and how female bisexuals are treated in our societies in North America. The negative stigma is much greater for male bisexuals.

Never the less, you are more than likely limited to what Jobelrocks has written. A third option is not to act on your desires and suppress them. That is probably the worse thing to do. It is much better to disclose your curiousity to your wife at this point than being found out later. Take it slow with disclosing to your wife. Re assure her that you do love her and this is not a rejection of her.

We do not know her but I'm sure some others will share their story about how they approached their partners.