bisexual or just perverted?

[OscarG]

I looked through all 17 pages of forum postings and didn't find any that quite addressed this question.

I definitely love women and making love with them but I also like sucking dick and am working up to bottoming for a guy eventually.

The idea of kissing another man just totally turns me off. I don't like guys petting me when I'm giving them head. I'm not really "attracted" to men in an emotional way. I get that one definition of bisexual is having sex with both genders, which I do, but I tend to think of myself more as a pervert than bi in the traditional sense.

Are there other guys here that feel this way? The only thing you want from another guy is his dick?

[tenni]

I think that this was touched upon within the past six months but you were not here.

How do you see bisexuality? Is it a perversion to you? Is your perspective that of heterosexual or bisexual?

Perversion is a concept describing those types of human behavior that are excessive or deviated from what is considered to be orthodox or normal.

Although it can refer to varying forms of deviation, it is most often used to describe sexual behaviors that are seen by an individual as abnormal, repulsive or obsessive. Perversion differs from deviant behavior, since the latter refers to a recognized violation of social rules or norms.

Do you find sucking cock repulsive? (seems not) You may be in the process of altering your view about sexuality and feeling discomfort for deviating from the mainstream belief on what is acceptable sexual behaviour. '

Not finding another man attractive but liking his cock is also how some bisexual men believe. It is ok. Bisexuality may ebb and flow and you may change your mind about that or not over time.

[Moonlight_BHI]

Your questions are not uncommon.
There are men who do not believe in emotional attachment to the guys they want to have sexual relations with. Some women believe the same.
Bisexuality seems to becoming a bigger category than original started.

and I agree with tenni's questions;

How do you see bisexuality? Is it a perversion to you? Is your perspective that of heterosexual or bisexual?

Ask yourself these questions an maybe you'll find the answer.
And know that bisexuality doesn't mean you have to have a emotional connection.

[Gearbox]

You never hear of women who are not attracted to other women, but just love to lick their fangitas.:tongue:
Have anybody heard of that going on?

What is it about cocks?
I blame straight porn for it. The way that a BIG cock made out to be the 'Pleasure Giver' in straight sex etc. It's straight porn aimed mostly at straight males, but those cocks got to be BIG uns and the main sex catalyst. Johns Holmes was famous for his BIG cock etc etc etc
Men love seeing well hung men at it. Not fussed on 'not well hung' ones.
It's no surprise that some men just want to suck that horny cock and make it cum (the ultimate climax/money shot in porn).
I wonder if this is a modern perversion/branch of bisexuality due to porn?

I prefer kissing to blowing, so no help there.lol

[LastGent]

In cybersex, OscarG, I just want to fuck; I don't want to know about my partner, don't want to know what he looks like, it's something fun for me, like reading a comic book. A two hour stand, then I forget they exist. So it's normal, after ten years in my sexuality. Your emotional needs determine if you need an emotional attachment.

[drugstore cowboy]

Why can't you be both bisexual and a proud pervert? It works for me at times.

[BatCox40]

Not finding another man attractive but liking his cock is also how some bisexual men believe. It is ok. Bisexuality may ebb and flow and you may change your mind about that or not over time.

Interesting point made. I often wondered whether liking just the penis if you are not turned on or attracted to the man it is attached to is actually being bisexual. Is there such thing as a penis fetish?

Porn DOES a lot to influence peoples' ideas and misconceptions in many differents ways. But porn is a "sexual fantasyland" and naturally porn producers will prefer the male actors to be better endowed for the sheer appeal of it. The same reason they are more likely to choose the hot or attractive females.

[Long Duck Dong]

its no so much a fetish as a form of paraphilia in some people......

using the penis as a object of interest, where gender and sex of the person is of NO interest.... it falls outside of the spectrum of sexuality as there is no attraction to the male person, only the penis....

the difference between a person with a gender / sex preference plus a penile interest, and a person without a gender / sex preference plus a penile interest, is the sexuality can not be defined correctly by using the gender / sex of the other person ( penis *owner * )

in simple terms, the first person perfers a male with a penis, the second perfers only the penis, so the penis * owner * can be male / pre op trans / intersex female with both genitalia....

its why people perfer to keep things simple as it makes it easier to define sexuality in others without the blurred lines aspect.....

so yeah, its possible to be a penis lover, without being a bisexual person

[BatCox40]

Try these links. They are galleries of cocks/nude male images.

http://www.showyourdick.org/
http://flaccidaffairs.tumblr.com/

[æonpax]

I looked through all 17 pages of forum postings and didn't find any that quite addressed this question. I definitely love women and making love with them but I also like sucking dick and am working up to bottoming for a guy eventually.
The idea of kissing another man just totally turns me off. I don't like guys petting me when I'm giving them head. I'm not really "attracted" to men in an emotional way. I get that one definition of bisexual is having sex with both genders, which I do, but I tend to think of myself more as a pervert than bi in the traditional sense. Are there other guys here that feel this way? The only thing you want from another guy is his dick?

From a female perspective, I don't think it's perverted. I know at least two guys whom are into sex the same way you are. One though, has killer legs for a dude, (shapely and hairless) and is on the cute side, in a Justin Bieber kind of way.

[parhutch]

I am in the group that just likes dicks and all they can do.

Not interested in kissing but definitely like sucking and getting fucked. And love the cum!!!

[swmnkdinthervr]

Count me in the group that has a fascination with cock! Bisexuality spans a extremely wide area of interests encompassing everything from nearly straight to nearly gay and a host of interests in between!!!

I personally love women, can't get enough...just ask my wife!!! I am not attracted to men, don't care to cuddle/kiss or share affection with them either but I do want to suck their cocks and hopefully soon feel what bottoming is like! I'm not submissive, cuckold or feminine, I just like cocks! Fortunately my wife is bi also but the difference is she finds women attractive and likes to kiss/cuddle and be affectionate with them, however men are still by far her favorite!

[dafydd]

You never hear of women who are not attracted to other women, but just love to lick their fangitas.:tongue:


Did you just write 'fangitas'? lol. I have *never* heard that word before. just when you thought you knew all the slang...

....how come vaginas get a more colourful language then penises? maybe its not a good thing.

OP: i think people might percieve guys as being more emotionally unavailable, or at least maybe its easier to just have the sex part with guys, and the other stuff gets sidelined. like not eating your vegetables because there's candy on the table.

[nuffstuff8]

Well, I am a masculine w/m here 49yo but I love giving head and getting face used good n hard n deep/ruff....mouth slave .....Sir!!


told when to suck and where.......your mouth whore sir!! Am i alone?

[manmeat50]

Well, I am a masculine w/m here 49yo but I love giving head and getting face used good n hard n deep/ruff....mouth slave .....Sir!!


told when to suck and where.......your mouth whore sir!! Am i alone? Very nice....ready to fuck your face brother and shoot a hot creamy load into your throat

[Bisexual Explorer]

The question here is whether Oscar G considers himself bisexual or a pervert. Pervert is such a negative, pejorative, "dirty" word that its use should be restricted to those engaged in sexual violence, sex with children, and sex with animals. Someone who engages in sex with two, or more, consenting adults regardless of gender should never be considered as a pervert. Referring to oneself as a pervert seems to me to be self-deprecating.

I have had (note past tense) my share of negative feelings about sex with men. Fortunately, I have never thought of myself as a pervert.

Bisexual Explorer

[darkeyes]

It is how the the great religions, oppressive societies and the bigoted like gay and bi people to think, Explorer..it is how so many are brought up and indoctrinated to think... to make our kind feel ashamed of ourselves for what we are in prejudiced and misbegotten attempts to erase us from slight and conflict us in their efforts to control us and turn us into them in our shame.. to conform and do as we are told and live as we are expected to live... to get us to agree to our legal or other obliteration... to hide, turn on our own kind and lie and even hunt others like us down as indeed far too many do..

[fred123456]

This describes me to a T! LOVE dick but I have never been attracted to a man. When I'm searching sights for gay porn and I hover over the thumb, as soon as I see kissing I move on. Not sure why, but kissing is a huge turn-off. I LOVE the "first time" porn where it usually involves looking at magazines or watching a porn and then one thing leads to another. This is how I got started many many years ago and so that is where my porn taste runs. Everything about a woman turns me on but with a guy it is DICK DICK DICK!

[csrakate]

Did you just write 'fangitas'? lol. I have *never* heard that word before. just when you thought you knew all the slang...

....how come vaginas get a more colourful language then penises? maybe its not a good thing.



Not to hijack this thread, but dafydd....I have heard some rather colorful language related to the penis...."One eyed trouser trout"...."Fat Dick of Justice"...."Heat seeking moisture missile"....I could go on and on but I think you get my drift LOL! I guess we could start a whole new thread related to this! hehe:tongue:

[chicagom]

Try finding the true meaning of "Wooly Bully"

[biblkman]

What Darkeyes & Bisexual Explorer said !

Even if you like sucking cock but no emotional feelings for men or no attraction for any other body part....your bi.

And there's nothing wrong with being bi ! Being a pervert is not synonymous with being bi, having multiple partners is not synonymous with being a pervert, weather your bi, homo, or heterosexual.People can do what they like as long as its between Consenting Adults.

A lot of people make the mistake of judging people on there sexuality rather than there personality and unfortunately we sometimes do the same to ourselves.

[RustyPete]

I'm the same way, but enjoyment of a sexuality shaded slightly toward the male, dick only, and mostly toward the female, all of her, is hardly a perversion. Dressed males walk by me? I take no notice at all. Dressed females walk by me? I take notice of all and enjoy a rather rigorous mental undressing in the process. Male walks by me totally naked? I take notice only of his dick. Female walks by me totally naked? I take notice only of her eyes...right? The only downside I find, in all reality, is, that, everyone seems always to be dressed when they walk by me. Oh well, if the day ever comes when perhaps you should happen to walk by me naked and with a woman walking naked by your side: I'll take notice of all three of your eyes. I enjoy seeing the eyes; seeing them, if or whenever possible, seems to, then, make me take notice of my own dick...

[Bisexual Explorer]

Darkeyes,

Yes, oppressors do want to have us think of ourselves as perverts. We need to resist in public and even more importantly to ourselves. As far as "turning unto them in out shame," I quote Billy Joel, "I'd rather laugh with the sinners, than cry with the saints. The sinners are much more fun."

Bisexual Explorer

[billataffinity]

i too am like you. man or woman, other than wife, i don't care about looks, kissing, hugging etc. only want to have sex. am i bi or perverted?

[*pan*]

depends on your definition of perverted... to like sex with same or different dose not make one perverted.. the problem with people is is if they feel differently about what ever sex someone else is having then they consider it perverted.. because they would not do it.. kind of narrow minded if you ask me.. people think they know all, but in reality they don't.. all this concern and finger pointing is recent in human history, only a few hundred years.. in history past in ancient times sex was considered natural in any form as it should be.. what ever 2 people do is their own business. too many people want to know what others are doing and how they think about it and how they will react about it before they would consider trying it. dam get a life, do what ever you feel you want and stop worrying what others think or do. perverted is just another label invented by people too scared or repulsed at what others do. if i were going to attach or even use the lable of perverted the Marquis De' Sade comes to mind lol... your inhibitions are your baggage and no one elses.

[ErosUrge]

It is how the the great religions, oppressive societies and the bigoted like gay and bi people to think, Explorer..it is how so many are brought up and indoctrinated to think... to make our kind feel ashamed of ourselves for what we are in prejudiced and misbegotten attempts to erase us from slight and conflict us in their efforts to control us and turn us into them in our shame.. to conform and do as we are told and live as we are expected to live... to get us to agree to our legal or other obliteration... to hide, turn on our own kind and lie and even hunt others like us down as indeed far too many do..

You are so correct. This took me years to figure out for myself and what a burden it was to learn and let go of such nonsense. Thank you Darkeyes for shedding light on this.

I see a counselor and have been talking with her for 14 years now; she is my friend and mentor as well. I once went to her saying that because of my desire to have sex with numerous men, I considered myself a 'slut'. Telling her that I had no interest in men emotionally and only sexually (with the exception of my closest male friends who I am not sexual with) I felt that was the word to describe myself. Her comment to me was that using such a word was a pejorative and that I should instead see myself as a highly sexed person and not feel negative for it. Though I appreciated her comment, I never thought of the word 'slut' in the negative manner that society views it. Also the fact that when women are 'highly sexed' and enjoy many partners, the word 'slut' is usually used to describe such women. I told her that I found it curious that men who indulged in activity with several partners were not viewed in the same light and rarely do you hear the word used for men. Pervert is one of those words too that has been used in the same negative manner. So automatically whenever the word 'slut' or 'pervert' is used and because of how these words have been used to describe horrible acts such as pedophilia, beastiality, etc..., they've also been used for those who enjoy sex for the sake of sex only, anal sex, sex between same sex partners (male mostly), multiple sex partners, anonymous sex, and on and on...and usually those who participate in such activity are considered by some outcasts even within the gay and bi communities. It is common knowledge what the risks are, but then this is not what this OP is about...

In my opinion, it is time we do away with such negative thoughts. Though I respect anyone who is interested or involved in more "meaningful relationships" with their significant others, I feel we must also respect those who are like the OP who have no emotional interest with those people and in this case males he/they are sexual with.

[Apleasureseeker]

It's your sexuality. More likely, everyone else is perverted!