The stress we bisexuals have to go through

[ballerbeauty]

So last year i came out, got my first gf ever,and lets just say my parents were less than accepting. a year later she and i break up and it takes me another year later i'm finally able to move on. i meet this guy. he's smart funny, cute, and i have yet to find something wrong with him...this it were the problem comes in.

my parents are more than happy to welcome him in with open arms, they love him, invite him over, completely let him in to our family. They did none of this with my ex girlfriend when i was dating her.

to be honest i feel more comfortable with girls, i am bi, but it seems like I'm having a harder time accepting this guy than my parents. i doubt me and this guy are going to last forever and i would like to continue seeing girls. how can i get my parents to accept me? should i dump him because i feel a stronger attraction to girls? if i do stay with him, how do i tell him i'm bi? sigh, the stress we bisexuals have to go through....

[slipnslide]

This theme comes up here all the time. Ultimately, I don't think you can change them. It's their problem, not yours. If seeing you happy doesn't convince them, then what will?

Maybe you can tell him in passing by mentioning that your parents are way more accepting of him than your last girlfriend. That'll pique his interest I'm sure and get a conversation going and it won't be so blunt or abrupt.

Everyone has stresses in their lives. I'm sure ours can seem pretty minor some days compared to what other people experience. At your age sometimes it's easy to forget that you're far from alone in the world. Someone will always be willing to listen. Even if it's just us here.

[*pan*]

hmmm well telling him your bi might get rid of him but on the other hand might turn him on lol.
yes being bisexual can be stressful, once compared bisexuality to being gay with a gay friend of mine. one of the points was gays only have to look for a same sex partner while bisexuals tend to want both, i can never be satisfied with one or the other, i need both. then there's the biases, some gays dislike bisexuals, while bisexuals like gays and heterosexuals dislike bisexuals and gays. but it seems bisexuals are always being set out by both. the gays and straights say there's no such thing as bisexual there's only heterosexual and homosexual one or the other but not both. yes being bisexual can be stressful indeed. wooo hooo but it's so much fun lol

[The Bisexual Virgin]

Are they more accepting of you being gay vs you being bisexual? Another question they did not like the girl you had beforehand?

[NakedInSeattle]

You've gone as far as intoducing him to your parents and you haven't told him you're bi? WTF?

[void()]

wanders by, tacks up sign reading "Low Bridge". Wanders along.

[elian]

Your parents are going to have their own views , they probably had certain ideas of who they thought you might become, it takes time for them to adjust to this change. Nothing can be done other than be who you really are..if they are open to it, in time they may see that you are the same person they knew before, but you really do love someone who is female.

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I think at times it's genuine attraction, and at times people feel insecure and they reach out to someone like themselves for mentoring, love and support. I don't think it's a shame to love someone, regardless of their gender - but be sure you do it for the right reason.

When you get yourself situated enough to become financially independent then you will be able to do as you please.

I don't know how serious you are with this BF, if you really feel strongly that you like women and you are very serious with him then I'll say the same thing I tell the boys - he ought to know, so that he can make up his own mind as to whether or not that's something he wants in a relationship. I'll only say that if he rejects the idea, that doesn't mean that he is rejecting you personally - some people aren't ready to deal with this sort of issue. I just hope that there is enough maturity to deal with it in an adult way.




So last year i came out, got my first gf ever,and lets just say my parents were less than accepting. a year later she and i break up and it takes me another year later i'm finally able to move on. i meet this guy. he's smart funny, cute, and i have yet to find something wrong with him...this it were the problem comes in.

my parents are more than happy to welcome him in with open arms, they love him, invite him over, completely let him in to our family. They did none of this with my ex girlfriend when i was dating her.

to be honest i feel more comfortable with girls, i am bi, but it seems like I'm having a harder time accepting this guy than my parents. i doubt me and this guy are going to last forever and i would like to continue seeing girls. how can i get my parents to accept me? should i dump him because i feel a stronger attraction to girls? if i do stay with him, how do i tell him i'm bi? sigh, the stress we bisexuals have to go through....

[JP1986UM]

pardon my lack of understanding, but you come across as not being too comfortable with being bisexual yourself.

It's like you've found a great man to be with and all you want is to NOT be with him. So why bother?

Most of us would be overjoyed at finding a same sex partner we liked and had a good time with. You seem angst ridden its not a girl.

So go find a girl and be done with it. Your parents will think it was a phase and the meme on bisexuals can move along.

[elian]

The OP was female JP, it sounds like her parents really like her new boyfriend but she would rather date another woman.

[JP1986UM]

The OP was female JP, it sounds like her parents really like her new boyfriend but she would rather date another woman.

uh....nevermind then. My bad. Carry on!

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