Missed opportunities in your past that you regret missing out on when looking back

[CuriousTexxxan]

Hey guys and gals,

I was just curious if anyone other than myself ever had an opportunity to experiment bisexually when they were younger or just in your past, and like me you just failed to pick up on the signs?

I'll give you an example. .... When I was in my mid teens, a buddy spent the night at my house. This was fairly common practice as we would swap out who's house we spent the night at on the weekends. Anyways, this time he was spending the night at my house. After staying up late doing normal teen boy stuff, we finally hit the sack.

We were both sleeping together in my bed and after exchanging the typical jokes and horseplay, I guess I finally drifted off to sleep. I don't remember exactly what time I woke up during the night, but it was late. I remember waking up and apparently had been sleeping on my side facing my friend. When I opened my eyes my friend was staring at me. He never said anything, but rather just layed there looking at me. All I remember saying to him is about how late it was and that he should go to sleep. I then rolled over on my back and that's when I realized that my underwear was pulled down below my nuts. I didn't think anything of it at the time, and just tucked them back into my briefs and went back to sleep.

It actually wasn't till about a year later after my friend and his family had moved away that it finally hit me that my friend had been playing with my cock while I was sleeping. It's no wonder that he never attempted anything again, especially after I just told him to go to sleep and rolled over. They say hind sight is 20/20, but just once I'd like to have front sight. Another missed opportunity!

Feel free to share your experiences with missed opportunities, I'd like to know that I'm not the only one that can't pick up on the signs.

[lilbitbi]

Exciting. But it seems you don't recall being hard when you woke up. Did the horseplay consist of wrestling? If so, did he wrestle in a lot of prone positions?. Sounds fun.

[Young pussy and dope]

That's pretty creepy that your "buddy" was touching you and sexually assaulting you while you were asleep. I would be majorly pissed if someone did that to me or attempted it as it was done without my consent. I do not have any regrets or missed opportunities when it comes to sex.

[innaminka]

Her name was Cherry (actually Cherie, but)
She was a Ministerial staffer for the British Home Secretary (one of squillions - not THE staffer)

She was the picture-perfect "English Rose" sweet, kind, generous and just the shape I REALLY like (slightly chubby/cuddly)
............. and fantastic in bed!!!!!!!

We had an affair over the course of a year (I travelled to UK 2 or 3 times a year then on business before the GFC :yikes2: ) so having time with her was easy.
I was being very naughty, I was married at the time, but things were heading for the stop sign.

I would have had to move, which would have entailed either bringing my daughters who were finishing school, or leaving them behind. neither was even a remote option. She would not move full stop. (something about Official Secrets Act UK being part of it. The other was an inheritance she would miss out on) Both fairly major factors. Also she wanted a baby.

We're still friends - my present partner knows all about her, but as it was all pre-Chrissi, she doesn't care.

It was the biggest "What If" in my life. As a couple there's no doubt it would have worked, but the associated baggage that would have come with us ...... well, we both made the right decision. I've got Christine and she's got a husband and two babies. (She's ambidextrous :love87:)

[CuriousTexxxan]

Exciting. But it seems you don't recall being hard when you woke up. Did the horseplay consist of wrestling? If so, did he wrestle in a lot of prone positions?. Sounds fun.

I do not remember my cock being erect when I woke up, and it is possible that he had just got my underwear down when I woke up. And no there was no wrestling involved in the horesplay. But apparently there was enough of something to trigger his interest sexually.

If I hadn't of been so sleepy and realized what he was doing, I would of gladly let him continue and even reciprocated.

[goldenfinger]

Oh yeah, when I was 21-22, long ago, I was working in the north-west of western australia, when I met a friend and we worked together. We always joked about sucking each others cock, but it never happen, too many willing girls. The night when our work was done, we had a party, but he got too drunk, and when I and other friends got him back to our caravan we were sharing, I undressed him, don't know why as he was only wearing t shirt and shorts, he just collapsed on the bed and fell asleep. I guess we were both waiting for the other to make the first move. Well, there is always the memory.

[Spiro]

I was in college at the time 1977, and then I did not have my bi side out, did not even know about it then. I was 19 or 20. I had a chance to go to Hong Kong for a three month internship. As part of the program, I was to live with an American family, they had an extra bedroom. When I got there, within days the husband came on to me hard, and of course I was not interested, boy do I regret that. The wife, also came onto me and I ended up having a very nice and steamy affair with her while I was there. If only I had know about being bi then I could have easy had a very hot three way for months.

I do regret that this did not happen, many of nights thinking about it, they both were hot. oh well

Let me say if David you read this, and remember me, find me, please.

[hasty1]

I'm straight ( partner of a bi guy ) I once, just once, found myself talking to a very pretty blonde girl and realised that I was wondering what it would be like to kiss her. I didn't, and suspect that I would have always turned out as cock obsessed as I am, but to have experimented, even a little, would have given me so much insight of how my partner feels. Too late now though, besides those thoughts only came to me that once, but I do now regret that missed opportunity.

[bi4asplay]

I have missed some many things because my focus was way too narrow.

[olmizzou42]

When I was in the Army in Texas in the summer one of my buddies and I would go into town on really hot weekends and get an airconditoned hotel room. He was into nudism and would take along a stack of nudist mags. We would be naked, in separate beds, looking at pics of naked people, both hard, but we never touched. I was experienced but don't know if he was. Whether it was shyness, fear of court martial...I don't know. He had a beautiful cut cock I would have loved to suck...and he had dentures so he could have given be a super gum job.

[CuriousTexxxan]

He had a beautiful cut cock I would have loved to suck...and he had dentures so he could have given be a super gum job.

That is too funny....

[zigzig]

When I had my internship in Crete, an albanian girl was giving me signs like I'm so pretty, and liked to sit on my lap. She openly said she was bisexual. I was 20 that time, and had a boyfriend in Crete. Later I found out I was bisexual. I can say I regret it still.

[Meliss]

I get signs of interest that I don't follow up on all the time. I have read that we do exactly what we want to do. One part of me regrets not getting more sex and more sexual partners. The other part is happy not messing up my life with sexual partners that might want more or less of a relationship than I would.

[D1srupt1on]

The only missed opportunity I can recall was one night while I was out working these two girls were flirting with me and asking me to follow them around the bars and back to there place later that night. I had a girlfriend at the time and my conscience got the better of me pausing my reaction to 'uhhhh...' which they then asked if I was seeing someone and I confessed. "Thats too bad" they said giggling at me and disappeared into the night.

I told my gf at the time about it and she just got pissed and used it as ammunition later on in a fight we had. Which is why I will forever 'regret' not jumping into that.

[whispering]

....and the official secrets are still safe!!


Her name was Cherry (actually Cherie, but)
She was a Ministerial staffer for the British Home Secretary (one of squillions - not THE staffer)

She was the picture-perfect "English Rose" sweet, kind, generous and just the shape I REALLY like (slightly chubby/cuddly)
............. and fantastic in bed!!!!!!!

We had an affair over the course of a year (I travelled to UK 2 or 3 times a year then on business before the GFC :yikes2: ) so having time with her was easy.
I was being very naughty, I was married at the time, but things were heading for the stop sign.

I would have had to move, which would have entailed either bringing my daughters who were finishing school, or leaving them behind. neither was even a remote option. She would not move full stop. (something about Official Secrets Act UK being part of it. The other was an inheritance she would miss out on) Both fairly major factors. Also she wanted a baby.

We're still friends - my present partner knows all about her, but as it was all pre-Chrissi, she doesn't care.

It was the biggest "What If" in my life. As a couple there's no doubt it would have worked, but the associated baggage that would have come with us ...... well, we both made the right decision. I've got Christine and she's got a husband and two babies. (She's ambidextrous :love87:)

[whispering]

Before puberty my friend showed me how to masturbate, and we did it a lot on sleep-overs and then in a purpose-built fort in his basement (safe from his mom). He had little drops of semen and was sprouting hair when our family moved away. The next summer I came back to visit, and could think of nothing--nothing--else but jacking off and seeing his dick again. We took a hike and in some bushes I started to undress, and he asked what I was doing. I said I wanted to jack off with him and he said "You're a homo!" and stomped off! I was devastated, and in an instant my innocent lust turned to something totally shameful. I was afraid to say ANYTHING about masturbation or sex to my friends for the next several years, until a teacher in high school showed me it was OK.

My regret? All those lovely young boys were playing without me!! I would have had some awesome teen years! :(


On another side, my best friend in college was married and jilted his wife. After an appropriate time, I tried to sleep with her, as I'd always had the hots for her. She turned me down, but twenty years later she told me it was one of her stupidest decisions...nice to know, but it would have been awesome to listen to her orgasm while riding of MY cock.

[CuriousTexxxan]

I'll give you another example. I was in my early teens and was invited by the guy my sister was dating to go hunting with him and his son. Their deer camp was pretty rustic with no light, water or heat other than a camp stove in the camphouse. There were a couple of other men up there hunting at the same time so it was decided that me and the guys son would stay by ourselves in the camper next door.

When it was time to retire for the evening me and the son, I'll just call him "K", unpacked our great into the camper and started looking for something to do. K told me that his dad had some old Playboys stashed away in the camper and wanted to know if I wanted to check them out. Well being a teenage boy, of course I did. We each crawled into our separate bunks with a magazine or two and began browsing through the pictures of naked women.

A little time had passed and K made a casual comment that if I was going to Jack off, I had best use a sock or something to cum in and not get it on the sheets. I told him not to worry that I would use a sock. With that I pulled my cock out and began stroking while continuing to look at pictures. Being that I was on a top bunk and K was on a bottom bunk directly across from me, it was easy for me to look down and see K Stroking his teenage cock as well. This just helped excite me even more.

What surprised me though was when K asked me how much I would pay for him to suck my dick. Being halfway between a smartass and just plain cheap, I exclaimed that I'd give him $5 to do it. K said there was no way he would do that for just $5. With that we each continued to beat off basically next to each other. A little later I started feeling that familiar stirring in my balls and securely wrapped my dick inside the sock I had with me. I was just starting to relax from my orgasm when K made the comment that he would stuck my dick for the $5 I had offered. Wow, what great timing. I told him that I had already cum and you could almost hear the disappointment in his sigh. I then rolled over onto my side and watched him continue to beat himself off until he finally erupted in his own sock. Afterwards we just cut our camp lights off and went on to sleep.

We left the next day so there was no opportunity to take him up on his offer again. Shortly thereafter my sister and K's dad broke up and I never saw him again. Another missed opportunity.

[NjbiGuy01]

I was working in the construction industry as a salesman. I was visiting a building to survey for a project we were bidding on. I meet the building engineer "Javier"..a handsome latin gent. We walk the job, and end up in the building lobby talking. My gaydar is off the charts...my cock is half hard, and I'm sure it could be showing through my slacks...I'm just feeling "it"....He asks me "do you need to see anything else ?"..."we could go back to my office and review the blueprints if you need it"...I'm thinking woah....and i stupidly say "oh no, I think I'm ok...don't want to be late for my next appointment...". Problem was I didn't have a next appointment, I simply got nervous and likely walked away from some potentially hot play...I thought he was a really hot dude, and I just stammered like an idiot...and left the building... I sat in my car with my head on the steering wheel, asking myself why ? sigh. Had a few hot dreams of being bent over his desk getting plowed....alas, that won't happen anytime soon :(

[like2bepegged]

At about age 20, I had been out drinking and my car broke down. I coasted it into a parking lot and had the hood up when a car pulled up to help, I thought.He was probably in his 40s and a little heavy. He offered to take me home or wherever I needed to go. I knew what he wanted, he just looked the part. I got in his car and we were heading for my home and his arm was over the seat. Thats when i felt his hand brush my shoulder.My dick got rock hard and I couldn't breath. We stopped somwhere and he talked me onto going to his house. Once at his house and out of our clothes, we were rolling on the floor touching dicks together. I finally rolled over took his dick in my hand, lowered my head and he stoppped me. he said , " I wont be able to return the favor". And for some reason I didnt go down on him. He tried to do me in the ass, but being inexperianced, he could not pull it off. I have never shared this with any one.

[topper99florida]

Oh, certainly opportunities I think I missed out on, some with men, mostly with girls though. However, in my mid-30's, and just bi-curious, I recall going into a gay oriented book store - Washington, DC, really nice store, not a peep-show place - and as I got to the entrance a young man was exiting. He was maybe 20, blond, lean, gorgeous face, slightly shorter than me, and well-dressed, and he held open the door for me. I said "Thank you" and smiled, to which he smiled back with striking blue eyes and said "You know you could be my Daddy any time!" I just smiled again and walked inside. Two seconds later it came to me that I'd just missed out. So I've tried not to miss that sortof signal ever again :)

[topper99florida]

Whispering: don't you hate it when they get back in contact with you and tell you they wish they would have! Sadly, now they're lonely, tired, and forty pounds heavier :P

[CuriousTexxxan]

At about age 20, I had been out drinking and my car broke down. I coasted it into a parking lot and had the hood up when a car pulled up to help, I thought.He was probably in his 40s and a little heavy. He offered to take me home or wherever I needed to go. I knew what he wanted, he just looked the part. I got in his car and we were heading for my home and his arm was over the seat. Thats when i felt his hand brush my shoulder.My dick got rock hard and I couldn't breath. We stopped somwhere and he talked me onto going to his house. Once at his house and out of our clothes, we were rolling on the floor touching dicks together. I finally rolled over took his dick in my hand, lowered my head and he stoppped me. he said , " I wont be able to return the favor". And for some reason I didnt go down on him. He tried to do me in the ass, but being inexperianced, he could not pull it off. I have never shared this with any one.

Thanks for sharing it here! Better luck next time.

[bigrdf48]

UOH Yes!!!
4of my supposingly straight married buddies I was so infatuated w/when I was younger I now no I could have had,Even tho they have or had a clue about me,they said things that had I not been leading. That str8 lifestyle I could have enjoyed. One as recently as a year ago gorgeous Guy 34 w/10" of manmeat. TOO DAMNED ASHAMED TO LET THEM KNOW I GUESS...2 STR8 ACTING 4 MY OWN GOOD! OR IT COULD B BECAUSE MY UNCLE TRAINED ME AROUND 5-1/2 TO 28.ALWAYS NOT TO LET ANYONE. NO, BUT....O WELL

[Hypersexual11]

I used to work with this Japanese guy. We were pretty close friends for awhile. He knew nothing of me being bi. I walked into the local video store that carried porn one day and he was in there looking for a porn vid. After that we would sometimes get together and watch porn together, never jacked off or exposed ourselves, just watched and usually made fun of the camera work or acting. We went camping together one time and once when I got up and walked out of camp to pee, he followed. I had my dick out and was peeing and he stood there, staring at my dick. If that isn't a hint what is. When I look back, there had been a few other hints dropped along the way but we worked together and that was to risky. At any rate, after the camping trip and his failed blatant attempt to get me on board, we kind of lost touch. Now we no longer work together and I've tried to locate him to no avail. Too bad, I think he would have been a fun partner for the wife and I. This was only 1 of 2 times that I had the opportunity but didn't pursue. The other was a guy that was pretty blatant about his desire but he was a really selfish guy and his wife had told me he was a bad lover so I didn't give it a thought. Although once they divorced, we had an FMF relationship with her for a couple weeks.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

I missed out on having the three some of my life with two men who meant a great deal to me way back when. I could get aroused simply Thinking about each one, and the thought of having them Both, was overwhelming to me. The mere thought of them pleasuring not only me, but themSelves too, as I watched could damn near make me cum even without touching any intimatepart of my body.
Alas, when they met each other, it was like tying the tails of two Tom Cats together and making them face off. They had an Instant hate for one another, and neither could figure out why...
So much for That fantasy.:eek:
Damn it damn it damn it! lol
Sighing Cat

[Diver79]

Back when I was in the army a guy in my platoon and I went on leave down to Heidelberg and had to share a bed at some gashaus. Shortly after getting the covers up I felt his hand on my thigh.. I moved it off and rolled over. Nothing more was said about the issue. I eventually found out this guy was bi, and really interesting. I was all tuned in to dating ladies and getting a hand in their panties.

Now that I know lots more about bi men I' kicking myself all over the place. A few years ago I tried to reconnect but it didn't work.

[olmizzou42]

There have been several missed opportunities with guys that I remember, but the one that I regret the most was with a gorgeous woman. Maria and I had known each other for years. She and her husband were hired together. I was their trainer and supervisor. I found her attractive immediately, dark eyes and hair, beautiful smile, sexy body and 17 years my junior. Hell, I was a senior in high school when she was born. Her husband didn't stay on the job long and eventually she was promoted to supervisor and we worked closely together with a definite sexual tension between us. She left and moved away, but we kept in contact. Her new job required her to occasionally spend a few days at meetings about 60 miles away. I drove down one evening and took her out to dinner. We had a great time. As we were walking back to her hotel she kept body contact and held my hand. I turned to her and we began kissing; slow, wet, tongue tangling kisses. She moved my hands down from around her back to her hips and whispered in my ear, "we need to decide what we're going to do with each other, but I wouldn't want anything to change between us." At the hotel door she took out her room key card and held it in her hand. I know now that all I would have had to do was take it from her and ask which room we were going to. But, in the back of my mind I was thinking that it was late, I had over an hour's drive home, I had to work the next day, what excuse would I give my wife for being so late, etc. so I gave her one more kiss said good night and drove home, telling myself that next time we would get to it earlier and I would make love to that beautiful body. There has not been a next time. What a dope she must think I am!

[Bi_Dave]

I was out hiking with a friend one day. He wasn't my best friend, but everyone else was busy and he called etc...We were around 15. Well we are walking away and my hormones kick in. I initiated talking about sex...specifically with other guys. I actually got so horned up talking about it that I just came out(no pun intended) and asked him if he would like a blow job. He said no, and we dropped the conversation. Nothing else was ever said. Well about two months later, this guy's other friend invited me to go camping in the woods near us. It would be us three in his tent. I had never offered anything to this guy, so I just thought it was going to be what he invited me for. We got all set up and were sitting around the campfire after supper when he asks if I would suck their cocks. Oh man! I was in a panic! The other guy had told about me asking to suck his cock. Now what do I do? If I say yes and do it, my reputation is mincemeat next week in school. They will probably tell everyone. What they weren't thinking though, was if they strictly promised to keep their mouths shut, I would have serviced them for the next few years. That would have had to come from them. I wouldn't beg to save my reputation. I still think of that weekend today. Me sucking their cocks with wild abandon, maybe getting put on the spit. That would have been hot! I know they remember that.

[Realist]

Bi-Dave, I've often wondered how many people had their first sexual experience on a camping trip?! I have discussed with this with both genders. More boys than girls seemed to have done it, or admitted it.

I missed a lot of hints when I was a Boy Scout, mostly because I was so incredibly naive, but on more than one occasion, I probably could have enjoyed a great time!

I feel retarded when I read of others' first times, at 10-13...or even younger. My first orgasm and BJ happened at the same time...that was one day after I turned 14.

I've caught up, some, since then, but probably missed more excellet opportunities, than I succeeded in!

[twilde1952]

It was a long time ago in the small town of Port Dover Ontario, we spent the year there with friends of the family. It was a tough year because I never quite fit in with the local kids and for some reason or other I was involved in a great number of fist fights in the schoolyard. I didn't like that the other kids called my friend Billy a cocksucker and got into a number of scrapes because of it. Then one night Billy says to me," would you like me to suck your cock!". To say the least I was stunted by the offer and without thinking said, No thanks!. The rest of the summer the subject never came up again and shortly after that all the fighting stopped....

[Visexual]

My wife and I had been married about three years when we dipped our toes into swinging. One of the couples had a guy who was bi. At that time my wife didn't know I was and I sure missed out on a lot of fun back then because of that. And, honestly, I think she would have continued if it had been MFM threesomes with him.

[CuriousTexxxan]

There was another time that a guy that I worked with invited me over to his place to drink a beer after our shift had ended. We were sitting on the couch and I was flipping through a porn magazine he had on the coffee table when he asked me if I wanted to watch a porno.

After watching the porno together for a little while he asked me if I needed a rash to Jack off into. Well being a dumbass I said no. Shortly thereafter I left and went home. It was years later before I even realized that he was hinting around about jacking off together. Wish I could go back in time, I certainly would tell him to throw me a towel.

[centillini]

Yes two, The first was I played with a couple few times, and wife wanted him to suck me which he did, and she played with herself and came hard, for while we played some more and only thing he did was stroke me in his wife's mouth, then one night as we had a few dirinks relaxing, she said she wanted to see me take his ass, and there was litterally a wetspot in her bikini afer she said that, then my phone rang and had to go, wish I would of stayed, they ended up moving before I got back.
Second one, I was in thailand, and was first exposed to passable ladyboys and had a few chances to spend "time" with one of these "lady's" and I didn't, look back and sure wish I would of.

[scapegoat1987]

I slept with women and men when I was younger, and then ended up being exclusively with men for two decades before rediscovering my bisexual nature. Using terminology that I just learned from another post on this site...I went through an extended "Guy Phase" in which I ignored my attractions to women, even though there were a number of situations where my relationships with women became so intimate and strong that sex crossed both of our minds. I just kept thinking that it would never work, because I was gay, and because I thought the relationships and sex I'd had with women before had happened because I'd felt forced to conform. I feared that I was somehow confusing friendship with sexual attraction, and that I'd end up hurting these women in the end. All of the women knew that I was gay, yet they confessed that they were sexually attracted to me and wanted our relationship to be more than just friendship. Now I regret all the missed opportunities over the past twenty years, because several of those women were awesome people, who would have made fantastic lovers. Alas, I was caught up in the sexual binary, thinking that I had to be one or the other, and all the while cheating myself out of many enlightening experiences.

[fredtyg]

I've missed so many opportunities over my entire life it's kinda tough thinking about it. One experience kinda reminds me of what the original poster wrote:

Back when I was in high school I was staying at a friends house. Nothing happened, and the whole time I knew him we never fooled around. A couple hours after we woke up asks me, "Did I wake up with you sucking my dick last night?". No, he hadn't, and I told him so. It was the furthest thing from my mind, actually. He just shrugged it off and told me he could have sworn he woke up and I was sucking on him.

I blew it off, too. Now I'm wondering whether he might have been just hoping for it, or maybe it was just a dream he had and the cock sucking was symbolic of something else going on in his head.

Was that a missed opportunity? Maybe, except I wasn't at all in homo mode at the time, and he wasn't my type. No desire to suck on him.

[CuriousTexxxan]

Yes two, The first was I played with a couple few times, and wife wanted him to suck me which he did, and she played with herself and came hard, for while we played some more and only thing he did was stroke me in his wife's mouth, then one night as we had a few dirinks relaxing, she said she wanted to see me take his ass, and there was litterally a wetspot in her bikini afer she said that, then my phone rang and had to go, wish I would of stayed, they ended up moving before I got back.
Second one, I was in thailand, and was first exposed to passable ladyboys and had a few chances to spend "time" with one of these "lady's" and I didn't, look back and sure wish I would of.

Wow, that's a shame in both instances. It's hard to find that elusive couple where the female half really gets off on seeing her man with another man sexually.

And it would be tough to think back and realize you passed up an opportunity to be with one of Thailand's lady boys. That's been a fantasy of mine for years.

[DiamondDog]

I do not have these. I have had gay and bisexual male friends, and some straight and bisexual women ask to have sex with me or try to seduce me. I said no thanks as they were too pushy, and in some cases it smacked of desperation. The ones that did not take no for an answer and asked again I had nothing to do with after that.

[GolfNutt]

Reading through these posts brought back a few memories. I've had at least four of my friend's wives come on to me and say they wanted to sleep with me. I never did but always wondered what it would have been like.

Back in my 30's I played a lot of softball. We always stopped at a local bar for a few beers after a game. One of my best friends on the team was a guy named Chris and one night he asked me to give him a ride home. On the way to his house I heard him mumble something. When I asked him what he said he replied "nothing". About 30 seconds later I heard him mumble again and this time it sounded like "I'll suck your cock if you want me to". I was a little stunned and again asked him what he said. He looked me right in the eye and must have lost the courage because he again replied "nothing". I really didn't have many bi thoughts back then and probably would have said no if he had asked. Today, my answer probably would be different.

[smokindeist]

I don't have a specific incident, but I wish I had understood that I was bisexual much earlier. Perhaps I could have experimented more, especially when I moved back to Seattle for a while in the late '80s. Who knows how many opportunities I've missed due to me being blind to who I really was, though I was pretty screwed up back then with the shit I had to endure growing up.

[dickhand]

I had a couple of opportunities involving the same girl . The preverbial 17 y/o babysitter (redhead). Happened to be my cousin's girl friend at the time . Once I was sent home for lack of work . When I got home , the kids were asleep (second shift) and she and my cousin were going at it in my bed . Wanted to walk in and join 'em , but I refrained . Dumb ass ! Another time this little vixen invited me to go skinny dipping . After the swim (old gravel pit) was about to enter her when my morals kicked in again , newly married and all . I kick myself for these missed chances most of all . Once on pass (army 1976) I was waiting for my future wife to show up at the hotel room when there was a knock on the door . There was a local fellow there who asked to speak with me . He offered to service me . I was stunned/shocked . How did he know ??? Like I said , I was waiting for the gf to show up and didn't want to get caught . If only I had known she was cool with it then . She could have walked in my getting sucked off and joined in . Damn damn damn !

[Jakentn]

I had a fraternity brother in College, who seemed to have the same "shower schedule" as me. The shower was a large six head shower with no partitions between the heads. I had discovered my bisexuality years before, but still had trouble picking up on any clues from others and kind of felt like I was alone in my feelings. He was a senior and I was a freshman (second semester) and had just moved into the house. He was a tall, lanky guy with a smooth body and well hung, I always noticed that when in the shower. He and I were buddies, but buddies like any other brother in the house. I was the kind of guy who didn't like the early morning classes so my time in the shower each morning when I first moved in was relatively private being later in the morning. After about a week living there, this brother (Chris) began showing up at the same time as me. I didn't think anything at first but I sure enjoyed the view, when he was shampooing I made sure I was eyeing that handsome package of his. This went on for months with casual conversation and him always there when I was. I never did anything or made any moves, years later in a conversation with his ex girlfriend, she informed me of the mega crush he had on me and that he never knew how to or what to say. In the last few years we have met, had drinks, talked and have had the opportunity to enjoy each others company on a few occasions. So the moral of this story is, even if you have regrets or believe you had missed opportunities, keep the "door" open...

[12voltyV2.0]

This is 12voltman59 here posting under my new "handle" as they used to say in the days when CB radios were a big thing here in the states--for those who even know what they are.

I had a number of chances to be with guys who liked me and wanted to do something with me---I had done stuff when I was younger---but at the time I met these guys---I had told myself that doing stuff with other guys was something I was not interested in doing again----so-----I did my best to ignore them, rebuff their "moves" and such.

I actually had a few who came out pretty directly, telling me that they liked me, wanted to do stuff and be with me. I guess at that time I was a "bit thick" that way. It did seem that when such offers came along--I was involved in a relationship with a lady so I was "into her" at that point. I thanked those guys, said I was flattered that they liked me--but had to say "thanks but no thanks."

I do have to say now--- in the years since then, I later wished I had let myself give those offers a chance and did something with those guys--see where things might have gone, but that is "water over the damn now"---a long time over the damn!!

[Visexual]

OK, going back through the forum, I remember another missed opportunity.

I was in the Air Force at the time and really wasn't even thinking about bisex. Heck, there were so many girls around at that time!

We had a guy in the outfit I was in that was known for being hung. And, there was another guy that I'd gone through several schools with, and was then stationed with, that I thought was nice looking. And, I really don't think about if guys are good looking or not but I remember thinking Danny was cute. He was smaller than most of us and always very clean shaven and he did have a pretty face and really great eyes.

One day, for whatever reason, he and I were alone in a large set of showers. I remember talking and joking about different things and one of us brought up our 'hung' freind. Danny looked down and made a comment about me not be so small either. Now I suddenly realized that I was just a bit hard and that made my seven seem like it would be larger, erect, than the seven it was.

I didn't comment back because I knew that Danny was a little embarrassed about being smaller. But his little cock was about as cute as he was. I have to wonder if being naked with him was why mine was a bit erect?

Thinking about it now, he just might have been making a pass at me. I sure wish I could go back and handle that situation in a way that would have let him reveal his intentions! He'd have been a lot more fun on the missions we went on together after that day.

[Lover_Not_Fighter]

Man yes!!
Actually 3 times once before joining the Army and twice while I was in. The last two would have been tough since that was 30 years ago! But if I could go back!!! The guy I had a terrible crush on prior to my service was a hunk +! Yes we did have a lot of fun together but I never told him how I felt about him and we split up and went or separate ways. He was the only man in my life I would have not had a problem with living with him. Now of coarse I know it would have not worked in the long run since I'm bi and so was he. But maybe things could have lasted longer if I had said something.

[bi_n_texas]

much like yourself, i wish i had understood better what being bisexual was in my teen years. i have been bi since i was 15-16 and my first good memory was with a childhood friend and neighbor. and, just like most others here, it would start with the sneaking/peeking of the father's mag collection. we would escape to his room when his parents were out, or, out in the shed in the backyrd...baking hot during these texas summers! we would strip down to nothing, and look at the pics and stroke our cocks. we would watch each other, and on occassion, reach out a helping hand. i remember the first time he actually came to me and kissed the head of my cock, and then put it in his mouth...i blew right then, and he swallowed every drop! i returned the favor, but did not swallow. we continued this mutual sexual experience throughout high school...exploring anal, watersports, and a few other things. i joined the military out of high school, and haven't seen him since. i wish we had stayed in touch...or pursued this lifestyle further.

[CuriousTexxxan]

much like yourself, i wish i had understood better what being bisexual was in my teen years. i have been bi since i was 15-16 and my first good memory was with a childhood friend and neighbor. and, just like most others here, it would start with the sneaking/peeking of the father's mag collection. we would escape to his room when his parents were out, or, out in the shed in the backyrd...baking hot during these texas summers! we would strip down to nothing, and look at the pics and stroke our cocks. we would watch each other, and on occassion, reach out a helping hand. i remember the first time he actually came to me and kissed the head of my cock, and then put it in his mouth...i blew right then, and he swallowed every drop! i returned the favor, but did not swallow. we continued this mutual sexual experience throughout high school...exploring anal, watersports, and a few other things. i joined the military out of high school, and haven't seen him since. i wish we had stayed in touch...or pursued this lifestyle further.

Like yourself, what few experiences I had as a teen with giving oral sex never went to completion. I think that is why I am so fascinated with having a guy blow his load in my mouth today. Trying to relive those missed opportunities from my teenage years.

[md2453]

When I was about 18 I discovered a parking lot that was a cruising area for men. Late at night I would go there to suck a cock or two and to get mine sucked as well. I ran into a guy there that was about 2 - 3 years older than me. The first couple times we simply exchanged blow jobs in his car and then headed our separate ways. Eventually I started following his car back to his apartment where I would lay flat on my back and let him fuck me like a girl. Looking back I think we ended up at that lot by similar means. Late at night after the bars had closed and we had both struck out with the ladies. Only I was looking for a cock to suck while he was still looking for a girl to fuck. We were a perfect match. Looking back now my only regret is that I never dressed up like a girl for him. At the time sometimes alone in my room I was putting on my girly things and imagining myself as a girl but never thought of dressing that way when going to the lot. There was no internet back then and I had never even seen a picture of a transvestite or CD. I'm my mind it was my dirty little secret that no one else knew about. I really wish now I had taken that opportunity all the times I was at his apartment and dressed up in wig, makeup, and slutty lingerie. I have a feeling he would have LOVED that as would I. Maybe someday I'll be able to actually live out my fantasy of being totally dressed up like a girl while with a lover.

[johndoe78412]

I was texting this gorgeous guy when I was in the military (during DADT :P) and he was ready to top for me with his boyfriend. He text me one night saying him and his boyfriend were watching a movie and I totally pussed out.

Later, a girlfriend pulled it out of me that I was bi during sex, for MONTHS she would would mention other guys asses, how I had a nice ass, and all that. She lost it when I told her I'd let a guy fuck me, it had to be the only thing she fantasized about.

[redadare]

One night many years ago I went out for dinner with my then girlfriend. I proceeded to drink a bottle and a half of wine and we ended up in a heated argument. I stormed off and hooked up with a few friends who were drinking somewhere in town. At the end of the night i got the bus home but rather than getting off at my usual stop carried on to the next stop which was right next to a gay club. I had walked by it many times and had always had my curiosity piqued by what I imagined to be going on inside. Now was the time to find out. I paid the entrance fee and walked in, descending the stairs into the basement. I got a drink, had a dance and checked out the toilets but found nothing of particular interest going on so I decided to leave. I couldn't have been in there for more than 15 minutes.

The walk home was about 10 minutes. As I turned the corner onto my street I noticed a couple of figures up near the doorway to my flat. As I got closer I noticed they were two men and they were kissing. They must have sensed me approaching and broke off with one of the guys walking away and passing right by me. It was my downstairs neighbour. The other guy was kind of staggering in the street, clearly drunk. As my neighbour passed me by I immediately noticed that the guy he had left swaying in the street had his cock swinging out in front of him. In my own drunken state, without even thinking I just grabbed his dick and led him into the foyer of my block of flats. In one action I positioned him against the wall, got down on my knees and took his big dick right in my mouth. I sucked him for maybe only 30 seconds until I realised my neighbour had returned and was hovering over me. Panicking, I upped and left, climbing the stairs up to my apartment.

Once in my apartment I stripped off completely and put the TV on, which always had some late night porn on. I started stroking myself when I heard the sound of someone staggering around outside my door. I went to the door and opened it to find the guy I had just been blowing hanging on to the handrail. I pulled him inside in my naked state and snogged him sticking my tongue down his throat. I then began to suck his dick again, it was a good 8inches and lovely and smooth. It was only the second dick I'd ever sucked and considerably larger than the first. After a while he went down on me and started probing my asshole with finger. He slipped it in and asked if I liked it. I shivered, 'yyes'. He then said he wanted to fuck me. It was then that i panicked and kicked him out. It wasn't easy as he didn't want to leave so I had to forcibly shove him through the door.

I have often fantasized about that moment since. Wishing I'd let him bend me over the sofa and fuck my hole and perhaps having invited my neighbour in on the fun too. I crossed my neighbour on the stairs and in the street a few times afterwards and we exchanged awkward glances. He knew my secret and I worried he would say something to my girlfriend who moved in not long afterwards. It was an uncomfortable period until he moved out sometime later.

[CuriousTexxxan]

Once in my apartment I stripped off completely and put the TV on, which always had some late night porn on. I started stroking myself when I heard the sound of someone staggering around outside my door. I went to the door and opened it to find the guy I had just been blowing hanging on to the handrail. I pulled him inside in my naked state and snogged him sticking my tongue down his throat. I then began to suck his dick again, it was a good 8inches and lovely and smooth. It was only the second dick I'd ever sucked and considerably larger than the first. After a while he went down on me and started probing my asshole with finger. He slipped it in and asked if I liked it. I shivered, 'yyes'. He then said he wanted to fuck me. It was then that i panicked and kicked him out. It wasn't easy as he didn't want to leave so I had to forcibly shove him through the door.

I have often fantasized about that moment since. Wishing I'd let him bend me over the sofa and fuck my hole and perhaps having invited my neighbour in on the fun too. I crossed my neighbour on the stairs and in the street a few times afterwards and we exchanged awkward glances. He knew my secret and I worried he would say something to my girlfriend who moved in not long afterwards. It was an uncomfortable period until he moved out sometime later.

What caused you to panic? Was it the sudden realization of what was possibly going to happen?

[Wombatso]

Well, there was this young man I knew and I really liked him. We liked each other and we were thinking of somewhere to go together back in the early 90's where we could date without attracting arseholes. We weren't going to where alcohol was served as he was 17 and I was just over 20.

I was scared though and it is the chance to have got to know him better, even that chance of a loving relationship with him. He was so beautiful and had the most beautiful blue eyes.

[centillini]

There are few, but now that older the one I wish, was in thailand and had an chance to hook up with a "special lady", didn't know till after talked with her a while then another person told me she was when left, wasn't as bi as now. Damn, I would of loved to tap that lady, getting hard thinking of them. Want to know how hot she was think MINT

[BareProf]

Two that I think about when I jack off. First was when I was 12 and had not cum yet. A good friend of mine and I would get together and strip and play with each other's very hard cocks. He loved to lie back and ask me to massage his balls. His was the largest cock I've ever seen let alone stroked. I wish I had the nerve then to suck him. Second was when I was 26 and had sucked my first cock, swallowing a mouth full of cum. We had connected via a swinger site, were both 26 and single. He wrote me, wanting to meet again. I said, "No thanks." Now, firmly a bi cock lover, I wish I'd had said yes and had him visit once a week for me to blow. I had mixed feelings about my bi side then. He knew he loved sucking and being sucked. Sigh….

[straponwilly]

Whilst still at school a friend and I used to go swimming of an evening he was known to have a big cock as we had of course seen it in the changing rooms after PE, but of course then it was soft.
I remember we had been swimming had gone into cubicles to change when I heard him call me, what i said, look at this he said. So i climbed up on the bench and looked over the divider and he was holding his very stiff very big cock in his hand. It must have been a solid and thick 8 inches even then. I just laughed and went back to getting changed. At the time I was just too unsure of my self to try anything. But even now over thirty years later I occasionally wank myself thinking about what could have happened If only i had just climbed down and knocked on his cubicle door. I had many fantasies of being turned into his sissy and shared with our other friends (male and female). If onlyI could turn back the clock.

[steve10557]

When I was 14 I had been masturbating/letching/getting feverishly horny for years. I used to spy on (not in any stalking way) my neighbour and his wife, they were beautiful people, and some of my masturbation fantasies would feature them (particularly her), but I painfully shy and awkward. This one day I was helping this guy clear the junk from his garden, it was a hot mid-summer, he had his shirt off and glistened beautifully in my sideways glances, eventually we went into his house for a cool drink, we chatted about nothing in particular, when without provocation he put his hand on my leg and let it linger there. I froze as he told me his wife really liked me.. he liked me.. I just blushed and laughed it off, but I knew something could have happened. Awww.. I really regret not licking the sweat from his armpit!

Things my old Dad said: "If you don't do it properly you'll regret it!" (on seeing me botch the puncture repair on my bicycle tyre)

[BiCuriousVAN]

Years ago, I was travelling through New Mexico and was talking to a very nice local guy. We were chatting and having a very normal conversation. We started talking about relationships, girls etc. I began to notice that he starting to look at me in a different way. He was young and very good looking. He asked if had ever been with a guy and neither of us had. He was curious, but had never done anything about it. He asked me if I was curious, I said I wasn't sure. I was in total denial at the time, as after I realized I was attracted to him. I was getting hard and was wearing tight shorts, which he noticed. He asked if he could touch me and I got scared, as I was feeling things I had never felt before. I said sorry, I am not ready and after awhile he left. I have of idea what would have happened, but 30 minutes after my decision, I regretted it, but had no way of finding him again. I wen to bed alone that night and masturbated, but felt so alone.

[cw1860]

On one occasion I went camping with a buddy and his family we were both 14 at the time. Anyway after a long day of fishing and other guy stuff we went to bed that evening. We were sleeping in the front bunk of the camper together as there were only two beds. I awoke sometime early in the morning. I was asleep facing away from my buddy, I felt the weight of his arm over my side at first but then felt something stroking my cock, and I had a raging hardon. I laid there for a few moments enjoying the feeling, all of the sudden I was frightened afraid of being caught and rolled over on my stomach taking away my erection from his grasp. I muttered something about sleep and went to sleep. Now I wish I'd have turned on my back and allowed him full access to my cock to see what would have happened.

[mrmetx35]

I had a few times that I probably missed...
When I was younger (20s) I was asked by an artist friend who I think was gay..to pose for some life drawing.. Maybe it's me but I guess that could have turned into something more but I wasn't "there" at the time nor did I pick up on any signals.. he was quite professional and polite during the drawing session.

Another time, mid-20s.. I got a job at a print gallery. The owner was gay and would come on to me.. I was signal at the time.
Again, my head wasn't in the place it is now..and I would put off his advancements..... Actually, I'm sorry I did now.. but ohh well..

[Coastocoast]

I received a call last night from a woman I used to see who was simply checking in on me and and my kids. She is in a relationship so the door is closed for now but I recalled an opportunity I had long forgotten. When we started seeing each other I knew she was bisexual. I accepted it and always hoped I would be able to help her explore it and get involved in a threesome with her and another woman, a common male fantasy. One night I was at her place, we had a few people over and there were a few drinks flowing; I am a non-imbiber. Eventually things thinned down to her, her long time male friend that I barely knew, and me. They were far from drunk but were very relaxed and we agreed he should stay so he did not need to drive home. As she and I were getting ready for bed she asked me if I would indulge her in a threesome with him. I had never done that but I told her if she really wanted it I would. She said I need to tell you that he is bisexual and he is as interested in you as he is in me. That changed everything for me and I declined. I told her I did not want to offend him but I was straight. She and I went to bed together and he slept on the couch. I wish it had happened a few years later when I would have been open to it, it might have been a lot of fun for all of us.

[CuriousTexxxan]

I received a call last night from a woman I used to see who was simply checking in on me and and my kids. She is in a relationship so the door is closed for now but I recalled an opportunity I had long forgotten. When we started seeing each other I knew she was bisexual. I accepted it and always hoped I would be able to help her explore it and get involved in a threesome with her and another woman, a common male fantasy. One night I was at her place, we had a few people over and there were a few drinks flowing; I am a non-imbiber. Eventually things thinned down to her, her long time male friend that I barely knew, and me. They were far from drunk but were very relaxed and we agreed he should stay so he did not need to drive home. As she and I were getting ready for bed she asked me if I would indulge her in a threesome with him. I had never done that but I told her if she really wanted it I would. She said I need to tell you that he is bisexual and he is as interested in you as he is in me. That changed everything for me and I declined. I told her I did not want to offend him but I was straight. She and I went to bed together and he slept on the couch. I wish it had happened a few years later when I would have been open to it, it might have been a lot of fun for all of us.


Man that sucks. That's like every bi guys fantasy is to have his gf ask him to have a threesome with a bi guy.

[travelmanNW]

I guess the biggest missed opportunity was when I was working in a construction camp in Alaska. We were living in bunkhouses had this buddy would always say come by my room and get me for dinner. Every time I went by he was just getting out of the shower he was naked, very fit and had the nicest cock. He loved to show his cock and I loved to look I regret to this day not just dropping to my knees and taking that cock into my mouth.

[marc_nola]

I recall growing up in East Texas and the "buddy sleep overs". We were normal guys growing up, no problems with us, beyond the typical young boys getting into mischief. One particular sleepover, this guy who I knew well, I went to his house to sleep over till Sunday morning, then up early to church. That night, he and I were setting up watching TV talking about boy stuff, when a commercial came on with women in bikinis. He said "oh Man" and suddenly took his cock out of his boxers and started stroking it. Looking at the girls on TV, he said that was nice, then asked me if I wanted to see who could cum first? Me being embarrassed said no, but as moments ticked away I felt myself getting hard. I just pressed my cock through my boxers as he jacked his. I did get enough nerve up to take my cock out and stroke it...and what I guessed was a feeling of wanting to cum (which I did not know at the time) I suddenly stopped. Of course he came and I recall the bright white, thickness and the sweet smell. He cleaned up we watched more TV, then feel asleep. Some time later we moved away and through letters he and i wrote I understood what he was doing that night....of course it was too late. Oh well....those wonderful childhood memories.

[CuriousTexxxan]

There was a time once when I was married to my first wife that we were playing quarters. For those of you that have never played the game, it was popular prior to beer pong. Anyways, after a while the game turned into strip quarters and it didn't take long before everyone was nude. That's when we started doing dares along with drinking.

After the normal blow your husband type of dares, we started daring the women into playing around with each other. Then out of the blue, my buddies wife dared me to suck my buddies cock. There was so much sexual tension in the air at that moment you could have cut it with a knife. After what seemed like an hour of my buddy and I starting at each other, he eventually said no way. We ended up having sex in the same room which was fun, but it could have been funner.

To this day I could kick myself for not agreeing sooner. I believe at the time he would have let me, and it would have been my first time as an adult. That's one I still regret.

[plainguy]

I had a friend that we used to do lots together and one day he was over at my place and I had some bi magazines laying around he looked at them and at me I think we both wanted to at least suck each other off we never did, I think back and wish we had. I still jack off thinking about he and I in a 69. Maybe I'll eventually find someone to do that, maybe here who knows.

[jem_is_bi]

I have had missed opportunities with 2 women that may have changed my life. But, given the good life I have been blessed with, I am left to wonder if that was the way it was destined to happen. There were a few gay men, that were friends, but, no emotional chemistry developed for them.
We all believe that we are in control of our fate. Obviously, we do make decisions about life’s details and major turning point events. But, how much of this is hard-wired into our brain before the time of choice. Often, our conscious mind wavers on the decision boundary only to be shoved by an unconscious decision in harmony with hard-wired emotions and experiences. So, despite the perception of control, unconscious forces shape our life’s trajectory.
For me, the true missed opportunities are those that never happened. Never, challenged my conscious/unconscious mind to adjust my life trajectory.

[12voltyV2.0]

With hindsight, I realize that with one friendship I had established with a buddy in my late teens/early 20s time period, my "like" for him did go further than just being buddies, hanging out together and such--it was something more and I really did want our relationship to be more than that.

I kind of think that he felt the same way as well---but that we were both scared to go beyond that and take things beyond "being buddies."

We always did things like go to movies, go out to eat, maybe have some drinks in a bar---with him---we tended to go to nicer places instead of the dive bars I tended to go to with other buddies just to listen to music, drink lots of beer and try to hit on chicks.

To be honest---the times we went out together really were more like what I did with ladies--being on "a date" rather than just "hanging with my buds" kind of thing that I did with other guys I hung with in those days.

I did have some other buddies who teased me about my relationship with him---asking in a semi-mocking way: "Oh, you are not with your boyfriend tonight!!" or something along those lines.

He was a guy that liked to dress nice, so with him I dressed "up" instead of just jeans and a sport shirt.

We never made any moves on one another---I think back and had hoped that one day he would have gone out in my boat with me---being dressed in just shorts and a t-shirt--and in the heat---just wearing shorts, maybe suggest that we pull the boat someplace to go swimming---places that I knew were good for being naked and suggesting maybe going skinny dipping, but that never happened.

He wound up moving to Virginia Beach, Va to start the process of taking over management and ownership of a jewelry store an uncle owned and I never saw him again.

I knew that I did "feel something" for him that went beyond "buddy ship" and sensed or surely hoped that he had the same feelings for me too, just that neither of us just could not come to acknowledge and act upon those mutual feelings one way or the other.

He did suggest that I could come work in the store with him---but I was planning to head off to attend college in South Carolina and that was what I felt I needed and had to do--but do admit--- I kinda wished that I had taken him up on that offer and if I had--wonder if we would have come to realize our "like" for one another was more than just being friends?

[CuriousTexxxan]

Sometimes it's hard to take that first step in fear of rejection and the other person telling everyone that you had made a move on them. It's not until years later that you realize that your fears at the time were probably unjustified.

[curmwm57]

I have a few, but the one that stands out the most would be when I was about 19-20 (recently married), I was working for a major department store and we were going through inventory which required we pull an all nighter. My boss thought it would be a good idea to put me up in a hotel since I had a long drive. He and the building engineer arranged for the girl from the jewelry dept to agree to a gang bang and set it up in my hotel room. When we all left for the night and I got to my hotel, I was barely there 5 minutes and there was a knock on the door. As I opened the door, there were 6 guys including my boss and the engineer. They all poured into my room and about 10 minutes later there was another knock at the door. I opened it to find the girl from the jewelry counter. I let her in and my boss and the engineer that set it up were all over her.

She was stripped bare in no time and spread upon the bed suckng cocks as they were presented to her If a guy wasn't getting his cock sucked, he was fondling her breasts orf fingering her pussy. So there are 6 swinging dicks and a bare naked girl and I am sitting in a chair watching. As I sat there watching these guys tag team fuckin her my boss was trying to get me to partake and I was just to scared but enjoyed watching all the action. One guy that worked in the restaurant at the store had such a big cock, when he was fucking her she was actually begging him to stop fucking her so deep... I still remember watching that guys cock driving in and out of her and stretching her pussy...

Looking back I wish I would have particpted

[nomorenomore]

So many times. Fear got in the way most of the time. I was propositioned by at least four different guys when I was in the Air Force. I always turned them down. I would find for days later, I would question whether I should have. Yet, my fear of being dishonorably discharged and labeled gay, played a big role. So even though I gave it a second thought. my first thought the next time was about getting caught. These days I don't really care whether I get labeled gay. I often joke, that this is my last marriage and that if something happens to end it, then that's it, three strikes, I'm Out! It would be nice to have a friend that I could hang with, watch football with, and maybe even have a little playtime. Probably not, as I often overthink things.

[striker62]

About 10 years ago I started going to nudist parks, totally into being naked around other people, sex was not on my mind. I joined nudist groups online and chatted with other nudists and made a friend with a local guy. We met at the nudist park and became friends. I went to his house a few times and brought nudist videos to watch with him, we were naked at his house. My wife knew I was going to nudist parks and said she didn't mind but she would not go with me. Then when I started going to the friends house she got ideas in her head. She contacted the friend and said we were having sex and she didn't like it, I didn't know she had contacted him but he didn't want to hang out any more. Now I'm curious and thinking back he may have been gay, that would have been my opportunity. Now I'm still looking for my first contact but I don't go to nudist parks anymore. That's not what I think about nudist parks.

[Meliss]

In my mid thirties I was doing volunteer bartending for a group function, mostly keeping obvious kids away from the alcohol. A lovely older woman got a drink and small talked with me. She asked if I found her attractive/ I responded that I found her gorgeous. She then asked me if I would like to have sex with her. I pointed to the huge diamond on her finger and asked what would your husband think of that. She said he wouldn't mind, then turned to the man seated a few seats away and said would you mind harry? He smiled and said of course not. I was sorely tempted but had a hot date scheduled just a few hours away. I remember thinking when it rains it pours.

[Torontomonty]

Yeah. I had a first meet up with a good looking guy named bernie at his home, he was successful, handsome tall and fit, really well hung with a nice 9" prick that made me pulse when I saw it! did I want him badly!

I was so nervous that night and in the just in middle of a breakup with my girl so passed on fucking around with him that night, I lost his number so couldn't reach out when I did decide to go for it months later... I know where he lives but I wont ever just show up though I I know he was interested in me as well. Hope to run into him again someday.

[sysper]

Yeah. I had a first meet up with a good looking guy named bernie at his home, he was successful, handsome tall and fit, really well hung with a nice 9" prick that made me pulse when I saw it! did I want him badly!

I was so nervous that night and in the just in middle of a breakup with my girl so passed on fucking around with him that night, I lost his number so couldn't reach out when I did decide to go for it months later... I know where he lives but I wont ever just show up though I I know he was interested in me as well. Hope to run into him again someday.u might of been right to skip a night with him during a breakup. hopefully he knew & understood why u didn't take that opportunity with him. it sucks u have lost his number, but u know where he lives. i know it might look creepy to show up @ his place but u have got a legitimate excuse, u lost his number. what have u got to loose if u show up @ his place? if ur worried about what kinda impression u would make, think of an excuse that would allow u just enough time to get his phone number, then leave. like u happen to be in the neighborhood picking up ur drycleaning & wanted to call him sometime but u lost his number so u figured u would go to his place, but then u gotta wait for the cable company @ ur place so ur hurrying. probably best to do this before sunset so it doesn't seem like ur assuming ur gonna spend the night, plus i don't think there are too many drycleaners & cable companies that do there business @ night. keep in mind he might invite u in & if it looks like it might lead to something more, u might wanna reconsider getting cable lol! but seriously if u know he was interested in u too ur not doing urself or him a favor by not attempting to make ne contact with him. i assume he has no way to contact u either. if he's real interested he won't really care how u get in contact with him again. what if he showed up @ ur place with what might be an excuse? it sucks to know something or some1 can be so close to u but u think u can't get it. it can get very frustrating. so why torture urself & possibly him? don't live in regret if u don't have too & don't rely on fate, go out there & look for ur fun, i'm sure u can find a creative way to get in contact with him again. if u want him bad enough u will find a way.

[AGuyIKnow]

...so why torture urself & possibly him?
I agree, go talk to him and let us know how it turns out.

[pole_smoker]

Yeah. I had a first meet up with a good looking guy named bernie at his home, he was successful, handsome tall and fit, really well hung with a nice 9" prick that made me pulse when I saw it! did I want him badly!

I was so nervous that night and in the just in middle of a breakup with my girl so passed on fucking around with him that night, I lost his number so couldn't reach out when I did decide to go for it months later... I know where he lives but I wont ever just show up though I I know he was interested in me as well. Hope to run into him again someday.

Find someone else. It's easy enough to find bi and gay men who just want sex like that or an NSA hook up if that's what you want.

He's moved on and is probably annoyed that you flaked out like that, were a tease, or did not put out and have sex with him.

My friends who are into having NSA hook ups or fuck buddies tell me how they've had guys who they did at one time find attractive and have been in the situation where they wanted sex with a man and he was just a tease, a flake, or did not put out. Months later when the guy who was a flake wanted to have sex they said how they wanted nothing to do with him since they don't like people who play games like that, and this was a long time ago and they've moved on.

[jem_is_bi]

I do not have a missed sex opportunity encounter type story. Rather, mine is more inclusive of all my life. I took advantage of a great many opportunities to improve my life and happiness. All my missed opportunities are nothing more than “what if my life took a totally different path”. I know when in my life those critical junctures occurred. I occasionally dream about the good and bad that would have been my life if I chose to follow a different path. But, the thought of choosing a different path, causes me to experience extreme emotion about losing the treasured joys of the life I chose rather than those of another reality. Nevertheless, I often wish I had been gay all my life rather than bisexual even though it is very unlikely that reality would have been better than I now have.

[man4girlgirl4man]

I was travelling through Europe alone after college. I left a bar in Paris after striking out with a totally hot french babe. I had to pee so on the way back to my hotel I went to a public men's room under a street ramp. There was one long trough urinal and only one other guy in there with me. We were at opposite ends but I looked over to him and saw he had a HUGE dick. And folks, I mean fucking HUGE. I was 21 then, he was around 35, and he was white and in good shape and definitely cute. He caught me checking out his dick and then he turned to me and smiled and began to jerk his big dick for me. I freaked out. This was back in the early days of AIDS so I kept my gay urges in my head and just fucked girls back then. I smiled back and shook my head to signal I wasn't interested in anything more, and I took off.

Two minutes later I realized that same guy was driving his convertible next to me, going the exact same speed as I was. He smiled and said hello in English and waved to let me know I could get into his car with him, but I didn't.

When I'm in gay mode - which happens but not very often - I am a total size queen. This guy's dick had to be at least 11 inches, maybe bigger. Now - 30 years or so later - I wish I did get into his car and I really wish I sucked his huge monster dick. Would have been so hot and I missed this rare chance intentionally. Wrong move!!!

[loftycraig]

Hey guys and gals,

I was just curious if anyone other than myself ever had an opportunity to experiment bisexually when they were younger or just in your past, and like me you just failed to pick up on the signs?

I'll give you an example. .... When I was in my mid teens, a buddy spent the night at my house. This was fairly common practice as we would swap out who's house we spent the night at on the weekends. Anyways, this time he was spending the night at my house. After staying up late doing normal teen boy stuff, we finally hit the sack.

We were both sleeping together in my bed and after exchanging the typical jokes and horseplay, I guess I finally drifted off to sleep. I don't remember exactly what time I woke up during the night, but it was late. I remember waking up and apparently had been sleeping on my side facing my friend. When I opened my eyes my friend was staring at me. He never said anything, but rather just layed there looking at me. All I remember saying to him is about how late it was and that he should go to sleep. I then rolled over on my back and that's when I realized that my underwear was pulled down below my nuts. I didn't think anything of it at the time, and just tucked them back into my briefs and went back to sleep.

It actually wasn't till about a year later after my friend and his family had moved away that it finally hit me that my friend had been playing with my cock while I was sleeping. It's no wonder that he never attempted anything again, especially after I just told him to go to sleep and rolled over. They say hind sight is 20/20, but just once I'd like to have front sight. Another missed opportunity!

Feel free to share your experiences with missed opportunities, I'd like to know that I'm not the only one that can't pick up on the signs.
a young guy worked for me, he was/is gay. he turned me on. but i was married w/3 kids at home. i passed and ive been miserable ever since. he was gorgeous.

[Melody Dean]

When I was in high school, I occasionally used to go to this underage dance club. On one night, this girl started dancing with me, which was nothing unusual. At one point, after a song had ended and it was quiet enough to talk, she said, "Please don't tell me you're straight."

I shrugged and said, "Sorry." She still continued to dance with me though.

Later (as in a couple months later), when I started to wonder what it would be like to be with a girl, she'd enter my thoughts from time to time. She still does.

[cuttin2dachase]

There have been more than few times this has happened with me. When it comes to gay-dar/bi-dar, I'm clueless as to how to put out a bi guy vibe and how to detect it from other guys in public or social settings. It seems I only know how to approach/pick up guys online whom I know are bi/gay and looking. This one stands out :

I was on a 2 week business trip to LA shortly after I separated from my 1st wife. My small hotel had no restaurant but it had a small lounge/bar area that catered to guests only. Each day I returned from my business calls, had a shower and hit the bar for happy hour before going out for dinner. The same group of fellow business travellers/guests (all male) was usually there or came in before happy hour ended to take advantage of the complimentary booze. We all chatted, small-talked about wives, families, jobs, told our road warrior stories, hoped some women would come in etc. and generally kept our bartender busy. There was one very good looking married guy (J) that I really hit it off with and I quickly got a mancrush on him. I almost asked him one evening if he'd like to join me for dinner, but I just couldn't get up the nerve. The next afternoon at the bar, there was no J and I casually asked our bartender if he had come in earlier. He said no and mentioned that before I came in on 2 other afternoons, J had asked him if I had been in yet. I wondered then if maybe he was attracted to me too and decided for sure that I'd ask him to dinner later when he came in. Alas, I overheard one of the other guys mention that J had checked out after breakfast that morning. Talk about coulda, shoulda, woulda and hindsight and kicking oneself. I can still imagine being naked and intimate with J in his room or mine after the dinner that never was...

[sysper]

There have been more than few times this has happened with me. When it comes to gay-dar/bi-dar, I'm clueless as to how to put out a bi guy vibe and how to detect it from other guys in public or social settings. It seems I only know how to approach/pick up guys online whom I know are bi/gay and looking. This one stands out :

I was on a 2 week business trip to LA shortly after I separated from my 1st wife. My small hotel had no restaurant but it had a small lounge/bar area that catered to guests only. Each day I returned from my business calls, had a shower and hit the bar for happy hour before going out for dinner. The same group of fellow business travellers/guests (all male) was usually there or came in before happy hour ended to take advantage of the complimentary booze. We all chatted, small-talked about wives, families, jobs, told our road warrior stories, hoped some women would come in etc. and generally kept our bartender busy. There was one very good looking married guy (J) that I really hit it off with and I quickly got a mancrush on him. I almost asked him one evening if he'd like to join me for dinner, but I just couldn't get up the nerve. The next afternoon at the bar, there was no J and I casually asked our bartender if he had come in earlier. He said no and mentioned that before I came in on 2 other afternoons, J had asked him if I had been in yet. I wondered then if maybe he was attracted to me too and decided for sure that I'd ask him to dinner later when he came in. Alas, I overheard one of the other guys mention that J had checked out after breakfast that morning. Talk about coulda, shoulda, woulda and hindsight and kicking oneself. I can still imagine being naked and intimate with J in his room or mine after the dinner that never was...
well to be fair u don't know for sure he was interested in u in that way. it does sound like there was a good chance but u never know. so don't feel so bad maybe he just liked u as a friend nothing more. or maybe he was interested but just wasn't ready @ this point in his life.

[Realist]

My radar's no good, either. I knew a guy for 6 years, who was my 2nd wife's best friend's husband. We became friends and had a little business together.

He'd buy old houses near a military post and I'd help him fix them up. We spent a lot of time together, doing carpentry work, wiring, plumbing, went fishing, to car shows, and out to eat with our wives, etc, etc.

He liked the ladies and had been seeing a woman, other than his wife, for some time. I, too, had a extramarital relationship, or two, then. (one was a young male I knew, which I never mentioned to him) But, during that time, he never once mentioned anything about being interested in other than straight sex.

I was always physically attracted to him, but there was no indication that he'd be interested in intimacy with me, so I put that out of mind.

Then, our wives decided to take a tour of Europe, thankfully with out us. During the wives' absence, he and I began discussing subjects that had we hadn't talked about, before.

One night, over sipping on some very nice scotch, he began asking me if I'd known anyone with different types of sexual interests?

I asked him why he asked?

He said he'd felt some attraction for a certain male and was confused about it.

I told him that was more common than he suspected.

He wanted to know if I'd ever "gone over that line"?

As I said, I'd known him for 6 years and I also knew some of his secrets......so, I felt comfortable about telling him, that I was bisexual. I confirmed that I had been intimate with both genders, since I was very young.

At first, he didn't react. That gave me time to regret sharing that information with him!

Then, he looked at me seriously and asked, if I knew who the person was, who he was feeling an attraction for?

Of course, it never dawned on me, that his focus would be on me!

Sure enough, I was the one! He had never been intimate with another male, but wanted to explore that venue with me, to see what the possibilities were.

So, little by little I showed him everything I liked to do with a male lover, and he loved it all....except kissing! He never did want to kiss....we hugged, slept together, washed each other in the shower, shaved each other, masturbated, sucked, and I fucked him, but never kissed, once!

For the next 10+ years, he and I carried on a covert sexual liaison. It would be the longest m/m relationship for me and one of the best, too! I would have preferred kissing, but I've normally gone with the flow during most relationships, so I accepted it and that was it.

I think back at the opportunities I've missed out on, and how close that one could have become another statistic, too. But, for a little scotch and an open discussion, we probably never would have done the deed!

[pole_smoker]

My radar's no good, either. I knew a guy for 6 years, who was my 2nd wife's best friend's husband. We became friends and had a little business together.

He'd buy old houses near a military post and I'd help him fix them up. We spent a lot of time together, doing carpentry work, wiring, plumbing, went fishing, to car shows, and out to eat with our wives, etc, etc.

He liked the ladies and had been seeing a woman, other than his wife, for some time. I, too, had a extramarital relationship, or two, then. (one was a young male I knew, which I never mentioned to him) But, during that time, he never once mentioned anything about being interested in other than straight sex.

I was always physically attracted to him, but there was no indication that he'd be interested in intimacy with me, so I put that out of mind.

Then, our wives decided to take a tour of Europe, thankfully with out us. During the wives' absence, he and I began discussing subjects that had we hadn't talked about, before.

One night, over sipping on some very nice scotch, he began asking me if I'd known anyone with different types of sexual interests?

I asked him why he asked?

He said he'd felt some attraction for a certain male and was confused about it.

I told him that was more common than he suspected.

He wanted to know if I'd ever "gone over that line"?

As I said, I'd known him for 6 years and I also knew some of his secrets......so, I felt comfortable about telling him, that I was bisexual. I confirmed that I had been intimate with both genders, since I was very young.

At first, he didn't react. That gave me time to regret sharing that information with him!

Then, he looked at me seriously and asked, if I knew who the person was, who he was feeling an attraction for?

Of course, it never dawned on me, that his focus would be on me!

Sure enough, I was the one! He had never been intimate with another male, but wanted to explore that venue with me, to see what the possibilities were.

So, little by little I showed him everything I liked to do with a male lover, and he loved it all....except kissing! He never did want to kiss....we hugged, slept together, washed each other in the shower, shaved each other, masturbated, sucked, and I fucked him, but never kissed, once!

For the next 10+ years, he and I carried on a covert sexual liaison. It would be the longest m/m relationship for me and one of the best, too! I would have preferred kissing, but I've normally gone with the flow during most relationships, so I accepted it and that was it.

I think back at the opportunities I've missed out on, and how close that one could have become another statistic, too. But, for a little scotch and an open discussion, we probably never would have done the deed!
That's trashy that you both cheated on your wives with each other, and other people. Why not just get a divorce first, and then have sex with whoever you want?

[jem_is_bi]

That's trashy that you both cheated on your wives with each other, and other people. Why not just get a divorce first, and then have sex with whoever you want? Wow! Such a simple solution would have created wonderful harmony for all!

[AGuyIKnow]

Pole_smoker see no further than the end of his nose.

[chtampa]

Pole_smoker see no further than the end of his nose.

Doesn't have to. In a short bus, all the seats are close to the windshield.

[querty]

fear not folks, eventually pole smoker will figure out that his best way to contribute in these forums, and for that matter in all aspects of his life , to bring happiness to so many, is to simply,,,,, go,,,,,away

[JackTexas94]

When I was about 16 I had a 30something barber hit on me big time while I was getting a haircut. I have often wondered what would have happened if I had told him to hang the CLOSED sign on the door. I regret not taking him up now.

[pole_smoker]

Wow! Such a simple solution would have created wonderful harmony for all!
Indeed a divorce would have.

People who are into cheating and who don't want to tell their wife or husband that they want to or are having sex with other people, and don't get a divorce are not the type of people who anyone should get into a relationship with. They've lied to their husband or wife who they supposedly love, so they'll lie to you and whoever has the unfortunate experience of having sex with them.

[brasilcouple]

Unfortunately I have a lot of this histories, I take a trip with my wife to another country, in the last night we meet a girl from Italy, very hot, and started to talk, a lot. The thinking cross my mind "oh god, we have a opportunity here" but soon changed to "yeah right, this gorgeous italian girl will have a 3some with you" so I started to get real drunked and talk to everybody in the bar, until she told my wife that we´re very hot, but I was too drunked, and leave the bar.

[bictguy14]

A good ten plus years ago, a GF at the time found out that a fantasy of mine was to see what it would be liked to get fucked. We ended getting a srapon for her to fuck me with. However we never got around to it before we broke up. It sucks because she was bi herself, so i know if we went trough with it, it would have lead to threesomes and what have you. Also the only person that i told about my biside

[Shazam]

I would offer some random responses to this query about missed opportunities. Some quotes that came to mind when I saw the question: "Have you missed any opportunities?"

" . . . let me count the ways."

Variation of Willie Nelson's tune . . . "To all the girls I missed before . . . "

An Irwin Shaw query/quote: "Did I take the wrong girl home from the dance?"

When conjuring up sexual fantasies, I fantasize and relish my missed opportunities more than I do my historical actual encounters.

Conclusion? I suspect reflecting upon what might have been, though often distressing, can be a great source of a perverse satisfaction as well as being an exercise in imaging. And imagining is a precusor to creativity. It is good to remember and reflect upon missed opportunities. As Mr. Carson of Downton Abbey fame asserted: "The business of life is accumulating memories. In the end that is all one has." (I would include among those collectible memories those of "missed opportunities.")

[man4girlgirl4man]

I was in my mid 30s. In the locker room one morning after my workout. I notice a very cute guy - who looked a few years younger than me - checking me out. He's nude and I'm nude and we're facing each other about 5 feet apart. My gay tastes are unusually, maybe even abnormally limited and specific. Dark skin black guys with size XL dicks. That's for another time....but this guy wasn't black. He was white like me, with a smooth almost hair free body (a huge turn on for me), and a nice round ass which he turned around to show me personally.

He saw me catch him checking me out and his reaction was to smile at me. So I smiled back. We then had a three minute wiggle our ass real sexy and almost imperceptibly and lock eyes the whole time session - in front of all the other men all around us, none of whom had the slightest idea of what he and I were doing in front of them. I have a big dick - 8 inches. And I'm a "grow-er not a show-er" so if you see my dick when it's soft you wouldn't think it could get to 8 inches when it's in boner mode. He was the opposite. A definite show-er and his totally soft dick must have been at least 6 inches or more so it could only get bigger from there. PS I happen to be a hopeless size queen too.

Our short flirty wiggle fest in front of all those other men got me so so fucking hot. And you know what that did to my dick. It grew - and it grew enough to be visibly noticeable. Not enough to get hard or even half hard but it was getting bigger and harder by the second. So I decided I had to put on my clothes ASAP and I smiled at him with a shrug that said "I wish I didn't have to do this but I really should" that he got without the need for any words from me.

I had to move fast to get to work since I had an early meeting. So I dressed and grabbed my stuff and I gave this hot guy - still nude and still facing me even then - one more secret slutty goodbye smile and then I was out of there. With my dick totally hard under my clothes.

But this wasn't over yet as I assumed it was. I lost track of him right after my goodbye smile. And he was still totally naked when I left so I assumed he would leave several minutes after I did. And I had no choice but to head to the office that morning and blowing off that meeting would get me in trouble for sure and could even possibly get me fired. My luck to have a critical can't miss meeting on this particular morning!!!

But this hot and really cute guy with the big show-er dick who was obviously hot for me was also a speed demon when it came to getting dressed. And a speed walker too because he was right next to me waiting for the green light to cross the street at the corner right outside the building. We locked eyes again and we both smiled to each other again....and if he said hello or anything else to me right then I'm sure we would have had at least one hot man on man sex hookup - if not later that day then within a week or sooner for sure. And I was married back then and I never once cheated on my wife. And I can't say I'm sure I would have if he did say something to me, but I really wanted to get naked with him and he was so fucking hot to get down with me, and when two people - of same or opposite gender - meet from pure luck and spark so much instant lust for each other, they really need to fuck at least once because that intense instant sexual chemistry is what makes a fuck a hotter than hot fuck and it doesn't happen very often, and for some folks it doesn't happen even once in their entire lives.

But I have a mouth too and I'm able to talk just like he is and I could have broken the ice with him. He obviously made an effort to catch up with me and get himself right next to me so I knew that sex was going to happen if I wanted it. But some opportunities last only a few moments and then are gone forever, and this was one of them. We kept smiling at each other until the light turned green and we crossed the street together but then I had to go left and he had to go right and I didn't (or maybe I told myself I shouldn't and/or couldn't but doesn't matter which it was now) say a word to him and then he was gone and it was over and done with. I could have said anything or even just one word to him - hi - and the deal would be done with that.

I passed on a no strings no drama chance to have at least one sex hookup with a ridiculously cute guy with an almost girlish face and his lean smooth nearly hairless body and his dick which had to be at least as big as mine and very likely bigger than mine. I rarely kick into gay mode but whenever I do I am a slutty big dick loving world class cocksucker and a total bottom who likes to get fucked by a big dick so I can get as close as any man can to feeling what a girl does when she's being fucked real good. But this guy had such a hot round perfect ass that I'd gladly fuck him to an inch short of a coma if he wanted me to. An ass that makes most women jealous and wishing they could trade theirs for his if they could.

I was a regular at that gym but apparently he wasn't because I never saw him there again, and trust me folks I was looking out for him all the time. I even changed my workout routine from mornings to early evenings right after I left the office and I even tried Saturdays and Sundays - morning and afternoon too - a few times but he never was there when I was. And if I ever did see him again - at the gym or on the street or in a bar or anywhere else - I definitely would not make the same mistake again and no matter what the specific situation was when I saw him I would make sure he knew I was there and that I was as hot to get naked with him and fool around and let whatever else happened next happen, either by walking up to him and saying hello again and not leave until we had a date time and place all set up for our first sex hookup together. Even if he was holding hands with his wife at the time. But I never got that second chance and I learned a lesson the hard way which is this - if you come across an opportunity and you want to take it further - not just a sex hookup with someone but everything other opportunity in your life - chase it down immediately and don't be a wimp like I was this time since your chance could be gone the next second.

I still jerk off to my made up fantasies of me and this hot nameless man having the sex we could and should have had together but never did and never will.

[man4girlgirl4man]

Here's one more from me. I was at work and feeling horny as fuck so on my lunch break I went to a local porn shop which had peep show booths in the back. The booths all had glass windows between them with a black window shade that rolled up if you and the guy next to you both wanted to see each other - if you both pressed the up button the black shade rolled up and stayed there until you or he pressed the down button. And there was a four inch or so opening under the glass to stick your dick through for the other guy to play with.

There also were some private booths with no windows and no open slots and I'd been at this place a few times before that day and always used a private booth since I had no interest in doing anything or otherwise dealing with the usual creepy trolls who throw themselves at every decent looking guy who walks into the peep show section. And I'm not decent looking I'm really cute and I have a nice big 8 inch dick between my legs as well.

But this day I was too horny to hold my inner slut inside me. I decided to try a window and open slot booth and I was lucky because there was an equally and maybe more cute black guy back there and he smiled a slutty smile at me as soon as he saw me. So I smiled my sluttiest smile back at him and walked up to him and then got in the booth so he could go into the one next to mine if he wanted to.

And he wanted to. The black shade was up three seconds later and we both pulled our pants and boxers down to our ankles and pulled off our shirts right after that. He was even cuter without his clothes blocking my full view. His dick was a little smaller than mine which makes a hopeless size queen like me heartbroken on the inside but it was still bigger than the average guy's dick and not that much smaller than mine. And I was too horny to care anyway. We both slid our dicks through the dick slot and we had a short but very erotic and sexually thrilling mutual jerk off session. I made him come first and he made me come less than a minute later. And then we were done.

When I got out of the booth I wanted to try talking with him and see if he and I might be into meeting up again in a real room and not these cramped jizz stained peep show booths and maybe have a lot of fun together. But he took off very quickly and was gone before I got myself out of the booth. And no big deal anyway. A fun quick jerk and jerk with a cute black guy and I have a thing for cute black guys by the way. And lunchtime was over so I left right then and walked back to my office.

Fast forward about a month after that day. My office was on the 44th floor and the elevator sucked because it stopped at every floor all the way down to 20. I'm heading out to grab some lunch and I'm the only one on my elevator when I get in. We zoom down and it looks like I might be on an express which is a rare little gift but we finally stop at 20. The door opens and I see a man and a woman who work for some other company. And the man of course is.....my cute black secret jerk off buddy from a month earlier. He looks my way and at first he acts like he doesn't recognize me - he was with a co-worker so I don't blame him for that - but then he repositions himself so we're face to face and the woman is facing the other way and can't see either of us. And then he smiles to say hello and I smile back and I make a motion with my hands like I'm on the phone to see if he'll give me his number but then we're on the ground floor and the door opens and they get out first. Not exactly a missed opportunity because I acted on it but the time window was too short and it slammed down too soon. I've seen him a few times since then, but always from too far away or when he was with a large group of people and/or otherwise giving me no shot to walk up to him and say hi without anyone else there to ask him questions later.