Why do the majority of men cum in silence?

[maturebobby]

I ask this question because I cannot understand how men can be getting full satisfaction by cumming in silence. I just cannot do it even if I tried. Whether, wanking, fucking men or women, being sucked off by men or women, when I cum it is with very loud noises. I loose all inhibitions and control, bursting into the most vulgar obscenities, cursing, swearing, blaspheming, profanities.
I just don't seem to be able to control it and the fenzied pleasure I get just blows my mind completely.
I don't know if I am a freak or not, but I would love to know if men and women on this site have the same experience as me.
My wife is the same, yet apart from sex we never ever use obscene language.
Love your comments please!!!

[nomorenomore]

I do it so as not to wake anyone up.

[Rambigent]

I make some noise, but I'm usually pretty quiet. While I'm very open minded, I think I also have a lot of long-held inhibitions. I would guess most of us had to be quiet when we first started giving ourselves orgasms so that mom and dad down the hall wouldn't know what we were doing. So in a way, I think many people train themselves to be quiet when they come.

[stonebow]

I too think it's a conditioned response...but it CAN be unlearned! I enjoy being able to climax with abandon, vocalizing without inhibition. That said, I'm usually pretty incoherent... I just moan and groan loudly...lol.

[Hypersexual11]

Quiet sex kinda sucks. My wife's mother is currently living with us and sleeping in the room next to ours. She's 76 and nearly deaf but we still have to keep it quiet for our own comfort. My wife spends a lot of time with her hand in her mouth trying to stifle cries. Once in a while we hop in the van and go to a secluded place we like and cut loose. It sucks having to act like a teenager in our 50s lol.

How vocal I am depends on how loud I can be comfortably. Generally, women lose themselves in orgasm more than most men. They seem to be in a different state of mind altogether. It seems they also put getting caught masturbating at a different priority than men. I have read countless stories of girls getting walked in on while wearing head phones. Most guys masturbate with their ears. I couldn't even get hard with headphones on. Even if I was absolutely alone with no one around. All I would be able to think about is a guy breaking in and catching me jerking off.

[leredacteur]

Ummmm . . . there are, by cautious scientific estimate, about 3,477,829,638 males in the world. Can we really know, for sure, that the majority of them climax in silence ? I've been having sex with men for over 60 years, and most of my male lovers certainly didn't come in silence. Their audible orgasmic outbursts, in my experience, range from whimpers and plaintive moans to loud roars and sounds something like that of a rusty nail being pried out of an old barn board.

The "men come in silence" contention parallels the "knowledge" that a male ejaculation produces between 5 milliliters (roughly a teaspoon) and 15 milliliters (roughly a tablespoon) of semen. That information, too, conflicts with my personal experience, both as an ejaculator and a receiver. While I've had guys who really did produce only a teaspoonful or so (barely enough to leave a trace of flavor on the palate), others have produced so much semen that I could only swallow the first few pulses before more of the stuff filled my mouth to overflowing, after which the penis was withdrawn from my mouth and left still more on my face, neck and chest.

[Realist]

The day after I turned 14, I was gifted with my very first orgasm. I heard someone in the background yelling out, just when the moment of ecstasy struck!

The person, who so graciously (orally) generated that momentous event, gave me some advice later.

He said that I'd been extremely noisy and, at my age, I needed to learn to cum in silence, or I might find myself in trouble!

Apparently, the "person" I'd heard being so noisy, was myself!

I learned to subdue my outbursts, when it was prudent to do so......but, during exceptional, out-of-body orgasms, I still find it difficult to be quiet!

And, still, when I'm noisy it seems like it's someone else making all that fuss!

[jem_is_bi]

I am definitely vocal when I cum. However, the MOST that my long time partner will vocalize is a LOW MOAN, even as I stimulate all the right places in all the right ways to put him in a state of extreme ecstasy where his body arches off the bed and his mind is driven past the edge of ultimate pleasure into total orgasmic overload. Nevertheless, even without screams of joy, I know when I made him feel REALLY GOOD.

[elian]

"Out of body orgasms" - now, you didn't tell me you could do THAT! (smiles)

I don't know - I just never felt the need to be very LOUD and vocal about (I like my neighbors but maybe not THAT much) ..that doesn't mean that I don't whimper or moan or gasp or mouth different parts of my partner...neck and so forth.

I guess maybe I figure a great deal of sex is in the mind - maybe I ought to learn to be more expressive..

..and yeah, the first part of my life I learned to experience orgasm in silence simply because I didn't want adults to know exactly what I was doing on the other side of a thin wall..it is interesting to unlearn the behavior.

..and I guess this may sound stupid but rather than vocalizing what I am feeling sometimes when I'm feeling very affectionate or amorous I guess I purr.

[Gearbox]

I have this really embarrassing belly laugh when I cum. But at least peeps know I'm really enjoying myself.:oh:
When I wank myself, it's very different. No laugh, waves of ecstasy or lasting feelings. I moan a little, but compared to the little wicker chair I sometimes wank in watching porn.....I'm hardly audible. Ho hum.

[darkeyes]

Guys can't do 2 things at 1ce, can they.:cutelaugh

[elian]

Guys can't do 2 things at 1ce, can they.:cutelaugh

You might be on to something Fran, I recently learned to walk and chew gum at the same time but other things can be hard.

[maturebobby]

Fantastic Darkeyes!!! I really like that response. But remember, some of us can, thankfully, and get the most thrills out of cumming.

[dramlick]

Like most of the guys I learned to cum quietly so,as not to give myself away. But that changed over time without my being aware of it. I was dating what was then called a stewardess and two of her other stews lived a floor below. Thee grids,said,to,my girlfriend "We know every time he cums".

[centillini]

I have no Idea, I know I am not, I am really loud. my partners love it, but the neighbors dont

[Cutiliae]

I think most of the men I have sucked off have made some type of noise while climaxing. My regular FWB always begins breathing heavily when he's getting close to climax and groans loudly when he does so there's never a surprise for me. However, one time while I was at his house we had an opportunity for us to slip away so I could suck him off. As we sat next to one another on a couch watching porn, he pulled his cock out through his zipper. I leanded over and took him into my mouth and started to give a hands free blowjob. After about 3 or 4 minutes of sucking on him I sensed my mouth begin filling with liquid and I was very surprised as there was no warning. He silently climaxed on purpose just for a laugh.

[pole_smoker]

The day after I turned 14, I was gifted with my very first orgasm. I heard someone in the background yelling out, just when the moment of ecstasy struck!

The person, who so graciously (orally) generated that momentous event, gave me some advice later.

He said that I'd been extremely noisy and, at my age, I needed to learn to cum in silence, or I might find myself in trouble!

My first orgasmic experience was with an older man. I was lucky to have found the most gentle, kind, and compassionate person possible, to share my first time with. I had just turned 14 and he was 60-something.


Let's be clear you were sexually abused by a pederast/pedophile.

People like that child or teenage sex abuser are not "gentle, kind, or compassionate" and they belong in prison.

Sorry that you were sexually abused like that by a creepy sexual predator.

[Maybhere]

We both laughed at this post as we wondered how you determined what the majority is? Is it both the people you have had sex with or a larger survey of the population?

[wifekinky4husband]

I ask this question because I cannot understand how men can be getting full satisfaction by cumming in silence. I just cannot do it even if I tried. Whether, wanking, fucking men or women, being sucked off by men or women, when I cum it is with very loud noises. I loose all inhibitions and control, bursting into the most vulgar obscenities, cursing, swearing, blaspheming, profanities.
I just don't seem to be able to control it and the fenzied pleasure I get just blows my mind completely.
I don't know if I am a freak or not, but I would love to know if men and women on this site have the same experience as me.
My wife is the same, yet apart from sex we never ever use obscene language.
Love your comments please!!!

My husband and I was soooooooo like you and your wife. The hotter we get, the louder and more uninhibited we get. I love letting loose and calling sex what it is, sex! We make love and then there are times we “F!” My husband can get as loud as me when he is getting “F”ed anally!

[biuc4mwts]

My husband and I was soooooooo like you and your wife. The hotter we get, the louder and more uninhibited we get. I love letting loose and calling sex what it is, sex! We make love and then there are times we “F!” My husband can get as loud as me when he is getting “F”ed anally!
Couldn't agree more. It just feels better to be loud.

[olmizzou42]

I ask this question because I cannot understand how men can be getting full satisfaction by cumming in silence. I just cannot do it even if I tried. Whether, wanking, fucking men or women, being sucked off by men or women, when I cum it is with very loud noises. I loose all inhibitions and control, bursting into the most vulgar obscenities, cursing, swearing, blaspheming, profanities.
I just don't seem to be able to control it and the fenzied pleasure I get just blows my mind completely.
I don't know if I am a freak or not, but I would love to know if men and women on this site have the same experience as me.
My wife is the same, yet apart from sex we never ever use obscene language.
Love your comments please!!!

Wait a minute. How do you know that majority of men cum in silence? A poll? Just your experience? What?

[Melody Dean]

None of the men I've ever been with or been exposed to have made much noise. Out of all the loud sex I've heard in my life (neighbors, roommates), it's always been the women I've heard. Which then makes my husband want to "compete" with them, because while he's pretty quiet (not silent, but generally quiet, I've only gotten him to cry out a couple times), I'm loud.

[cuttin2dachase]

The vocalizations and sounds I make before, during and just after orgasm with a woman or a man can't be described as muffled or quiet, but they can't be called earsplitting or overly loud either. As I build to orgasm it is a crescendo of sounds, with my breathing and my moaning and my "Oh yes baby" or "Ima cum baby" utterings becoming deeper and louder. At the moment of orgasm, it peaks with a breathless, but loud uttering of "OH I'M CUMMING BABY" or "OH YOU MADE ME CUM BABY" (as if my partner didn't already know LOL). Then it's a reverse crescendo of moaning, breathing and oh, oh, oh's and ah ah ah's tapering off to silence. The exception is when a female or male partner continues to suck my cock even more forcefully as I cum or when a woman clenches her vaginal muscles and "milks" me as I cum. My cock spasms and spurts even more and my hips are still thrusting and involuntarily jerking and twitching...and....well you can add a sharp string of oh! oh! oh!s and ooh! ooh! ooh!s and aah! aah! aah!s before I fade to silence.

It is not the same when I masturbate. I too was conditioned as a teen to be very silent so Mom or Dad or one of my sisters wouldn't overhear me as I brought myself off. As other posters have said, I am quiet about it even when there's nobody else in the house. I think it also has to do somehow with the fact that another human being is not involved. It's just me getting myself off and it's nothing to get excited about. LOL

[darkeyes]

Surely guys haven't changed that much in the decade or so since I had regular nookie wiv the buggers.. best I remember as they cum they made right animalistic grunts an groans an moans, even man screams.. not all, but most. Me x hubby wos ver loud.. 'cept wen his mum or my mum and dad wer in room next door.. an' most otha normally loud guys wer also ver silent if ther mum an dad wer in next room... an' to be fair, at such times even Fran tried 2 supress her orgasmic screams... usually but not always successfully.... but then now and again guys failed in that... an' me m8s hubbies an bfs? Wen me m8s an them stay at ours, or we at thers.. invariably if ther is some pash in next room... the buggers r hardly silent bout it.. is easy 2 tell wen either cums.. mayb an American thing, hey? Tho not as I recall from my one and only hol in Seattle and the north western US..:tongue: humpy bumpy in corner or bushes at parties or barbis or next room guys make same noises Brit guys do in same circumtances as they cum mostly.... just in American accents...:eek2::yikes2::impleased

[pole_smoker]

It depends on where I am, and who I am with. Or if people are around and I don't want certain people to hear me I won't be loud or make noise.

[Susurrus1964]

I don't know about anybody else, but I grew up with my parents' bedroom right across the hall, and we didn't close our bedroom doors. Many's the night I sat in my bed with a pussy mag and my cock, trying to get off without my folks knowing.

It's true, an orgasm where you just let go is more intense, but that being quiet when you cum... It's a habit that's hard to let go of.

[bedbuddyrme]

I was always quiet when I came too...as a conditioned response because of jacking off all the time particularly because others may be around. However, my wife is encouraging me to be more vocal as it helps her to get excited as well. I'm most vocal when she is fucking my ass......OMG!!!!!!

[Realist]

Darkeyes wrote: "Guys can't do 2 things at 1ce, can they.:cutelaugh"

You're such an agitator, Fran! How you ever found a lover is beyond me!:yikes2:

As far as noisy orgasms go: I can only remember a few lovers, of both genders, having silent orgasms. Noises they've made have ranged from a Squeak, to bloody-murder screams! My orgasms are often like out-of-body experiences and the sounds I make are like they're from someone else.

Sure, I was quiet when I was still with my parents, but it always took a great effort for me to not call out, when I came.

[darkeyes]

Darkeyes wrote: "Guys can't do 2 things at 1ce, can they.:cutelaugh"

You're such an agitator, Fran! How you ever found a lover is beyond me!:yikes2:

As far as noisy orgasms go: I can only remember a few lovers, of both genders, having silent orgasms. Noises they've made have ranged from a Squeak, to bloody-murder screams! My orgasms are often like out-of-body experiences and the sounds I make are like they're from someone else.

Sure, I was quiet when I was still with my parents, but it always took a great effort for me to not call out, when I came.
Have sed that a few times on site, Realist. wich instance wos that? dont fash yersel... guys usually found a way 2 keep me gob occupied...;) lotsa them wer lefties.... agititors.... found waýs 2 shut them up 2..:tongue:

[CaArmyGuy]

I never thought about it before, but there is some merit to the idea that we taught ourselves to be quiet when masturbating as teens

[wifekinky4husband]

None of the men I've ever been with or been exposed to have made much noise. Out of all the loud sex I've heard in my life (neighbors, roommates), it's always been the women I've heard. Which then makes my husband want to "compete" with them, because while he's pretty quiet (not silent, but generally quiet, I've only gotten him to cry out a couple times), I'm loud.

Have you ever taken your man anally? That should punch the correct noise ticket.

[TXLonestarTX69]

I've found that I tend to hold my breath when I cum, and holding one's breath and vocalizing are mutually exclusive activities.

[Melody Dean]

Have you ever taken your man anally? That should punch the correct noise ticket.

Nope, he's not interested.

[Melody Dean]

I've found that I tend to hold my breath when I cum, and holding one's breath and vocalizing are mutually exclusive activities.

Now THAT makes perfect sense. In fact, now that I think about it, when I receive anal, I tend to be quiet because I'm holding my breath, at least at first.

[wifekinky4husband]

Now THAT makes perfect sense. In fact, now that I think about it, when I receive anal, I tend to be quiet because I'm holding my breath, at least at first.

Holy smokes, how can you guys be quiet and how can you hold you breath? I am huffing, puffing, grunting, and going “Oh OH OH!” The screaming to F me all the more. My husband has become equally vocal since we added anal on him into the mix! To each his/her own. I'd burst.

[Peninrich]

Silence? What's that? I moan and groan when I have an orgasm....

[12voltyV2.0]

Surely when I was a kid, jerking off in my room---I learned to cum in silence, same for when I was in the service living on board ships. The same still goes if the situation calls for discretion when it comes to being noisy when cumming.

Now---when being discrete is not a concern---I like to be very vocal. Even though it is a very rare occurrence, sad to say, when I am with a guy who is fucking me--I like to be VERY VOCAL---grunting, moaning and telling him how good his cock feels, how good his fucking feels, to "fuck me" things like that--which all hopefully and usually does increase his enthusiasm and intensity, resulting in a wonderful fucking.

I just hope that when this is the case and if me and the guy are in a motel/hotel room--I am not being too loud and disturbing others.:bounce::impleased:yikes2: