Arousal state

[cmmss]

I have been thinking of something as of late and thought I would share it on the board here.

I am a 43 year old male. I began to find my bi side about 10 years ago. For me this was not an instantaneous admittance but eventually I grew or found acceptance about being bi.

One thing I have noticed over the years is a possible change in my state of arousal. What I mean is how quickly I get "turned on" by each sex (female and male). It used to be that as soon as I would even think about sex or something sexual during the day or see some porn etc about a woman I would become aroused. Hard and leaking in quick fashion. Then I started to become interested in Men.

Now and for the last several years it is the thought of Men that gets me going faster than women. Sometimes all it takes it a quick stop to check this board and only read a few post and I will be leaking in no time. I am not having a personal struggle or anything about the notion that men seem to turn me on faster now. It is just an observation that I thought I would share with everyone here.

Has anyone else experienced this? Male or Female?

I am interested in reading your thoughts!

[FullSpectrum]

I find that what arouses me most varies from day to day. Most often it is women, but then suddenly it's a guy.

[nomorenomore]

I have been the same way. While I love being with a woman, though it has been so long you could call me a virgin, I find that once I accepted that I might be bisexual, it was like a light switch went on. I love a woman's body, the curves, her breasts, eyes, butt, and legs, I never really liked pussy. Oh, I could devour a pussy and really make my partner writhe. It is just that since I have sort of accepted that I might be attracted to men too, I find I really am attracted to cock more than pussy. Mind you, it is all still fantasy and real-life could change that, but at this point in time, I find pussy ho-hum, but love looking at nice cocks. Being married, I may never know what it is like. Then again, I don't know what it is like to have a pussy either since it has been almost five years.

[cuttin2dachase]

I never really liked pussy. Oh, I could devour a pussy and really make my partner writhe. It is just that since I have sort of accepted that I might be attracted to men too, I find I really am attracted to cock more than pussy. at this point in time, I find pussy ho-hum

This is sort of how I feel now, except I still desire sex with women. I still find women physically attractive and sexually arousing and I've not lost the desire to please them. I've had pussy less than a dozen times since I left my 2nd wife 5 yrs ago, but it was either in 3somes with bi friendly married couples or with women whom I just didn't click. I don't miss casual, vanilla sex with women at all, but I do miss having an emotional and sexual bond with a close female companion who accepts my bi side as my 1st wife did. I've dated several desirable women. The sex was good early on, but it was obvious they wanted exclusive vanilla relationships. I knew they'd be shocked and hurt if I dropped the "I'm bi" bomb on them. I stopped seeing them before they could get serious and I let them down gently. On the other hand I do enjoy casual intimacy and sex with men and I pursue it almost exclusively now. There's no drama and emotional attachment and many fewer worries than pursuing casual sex with women. As nomore put it...pussy seems "ho-hum" and, in general, overrated to me now. I am much more aroused, turned on. excited and motivated by my taboo, secret sexual desires for men than I am in seeking girlfriends who are right for me. If by chance a desirable bi friendly woman falls into my lap by serendipitous circumstances, I would explore with her and see where it goes. Unless and until she does, I'll be quite content to confine my sexual activity to bi men or couples with bi men.

[sysper]

This is sort of how I feel now, except I still desire sex with women. I still find women physically attractive and sexually arousing and I've not lost the desire to please them. I've had pussy less than a dozen times since I left my 2nd wife 5 yrs ago, but it was either in 3somes with bi friendly married couples or with women whom I just didn't click. I don't miss casual, vanilla sex with women at all, but I do miss having an emotional and sexual bond with a close female companion who accepts my bi side as my 1st wife did. I've dated several desirable women. The sex was good early on, but it was obvious they wanted exclusive vanilla relationships. I knew they'd be shocked and hurt if I dropped the "I'm bi" bomb on them. I stopped seeing them before they could get serious and I let them down gently. On the other hand I do enjoy casual intimacy and sex with men and I pursue it almost exclusively now. There's no drama and emotional attachment and many fewer worries than pursuing casual sex with women. As nomore put it...pussy seems "ho-hum" and, in general, overrated to me now. I am much more aroused, turned on. excited and motivated by my taboo, secret sexual desires for men than I am in seeking girlfriends who are right for me. If by chance a desirable bi friendly woman falls into my lap by serendipitous circumstances, I would explore with her and see where it goes. Unless and until she does, I'll be quite content to confine my sexual activity to bi men or couples with bi men.i think u hit on something here.....u said with guys it's no drama. that could be a major reason i'm bicurious. it makes sense now. i love women & crave the right one so bad whoever she is out there, but i have no luck with them & in fact i'm scared shitless! with guys i would be getting some illusion of imtimacy & i wouldn't have to worry about getting involed & possibly hurt cause i have no interest in ever going deep enough with a guy where i could get real hurt.

[OlderBC1]

I love a furry pussy,nice ass & well rounded tits. But I like a nice size smooth cock too. A nice bend over ass is a bonus as well. Reminds me of my one buddy who would suck on my cock unbelievably hard. Like he really wanted my cock in his mouth, or would do a great job of sucking it when he had it right there.

[mas8092]

Great thread! I love boobs and cock. No interest in kissing guys, but love it with girls. I guess sucking a cock and being fucked is less intimate than kissing.

[wrbi01]

I get this same deal every time.... I will be at one extream to another day to day. Being that my wife knows about my thoughts and dosent have that much sex with me I have to admit that sometimes it seems that Im more into guys... but... next thing you know I cant even get hard thinking of guys or male porn. I just switches.