why i might be bicurious

[sysper]

i think the main reason i might be interested in exploring bisexuality is to prove something to myself. it's hard to put it into words, but i think what i would be trying to prove is "i can." is that a good enough reason?

[shybutfreaky]

yea, you might really like it and have a lot of fun ;) new experiences are always good

[sysper]

thanks for the encouragement. it would be nice to know if i like it or not. but also kinda searching for some kinda answer. either way it's probably a good idea to try.

[pole_smoker]

"Bi Curious" is just another term for being bisexual.

If you were gay you wouldn't be sexually attracted to women or fantasizing about them, and if you were hetero/straight you wouldn't be fantasizing about having sex with the same gender/sex.

[tenni]

I find your statement difficult to understand. What I might get from it is that the "I can" part. You can what? There is a bit more to being bisexual than a sexual act but much of it does seem to focus on being able to reject the taboos of our society about same sex acts. A person who can violate the heteronormative rules may be either bisexual or homosexual. I find the guilt aspect of being involved in a same sex activity is the greatest internal pressure holding people back from enjoying same sex play. The fear that same sex play is wrong. A bisexual can try to force themselves to stay with in the boundary of mix gender sexual activity only. Can a person have sex with both genders and be comfortable about wanting sex with both men and women may be what you are wanting to see if you can.

If a person has sex with both genders and enjoys it they are bisexual. If the guilt of violating societal taboo about being bisexual is so strong that the person wants to force themselves to living a monosexual sex actions (hetero or gay) they repress their attractions. They won't be happy. I agree that after one or two attempts at enjoying same sex activity, you are no longer curious. You are repressed sexually about your attractions. The guilt of being bad for violating monosexual values of one or the other but not both is huge. It can take years to come to terms with your sexual attractions and especially when so many bisexuals report an fluid aspect to their attractions. It is easier to reject your dual attractions when sometimes you have no attraction for same sex. Can you accept yourself.

I think that it is possible to wonder about same gender sex play and once you try it it does nothing for you. Can you accept that or are you repressing yourself to fit monosexual norms? I suspect that if you are curious as to how it might feel you probably are a repressed bisexual who is travelling along a difficult road of acceptance and doubts. I think that in today's society of a more open dialogue about sexuality the question about same sex activity is considered by most humans. It would be rare for a human not to wonder if only for a minute as to how it might be to be sexual with the same gender.

[darkeyes]

Sounds to me like peeps who do all sorts if things, tenni.. like climbing a mountain cos it's there.. seems no big deal to me or in the least confusing. Deep down the reason is prob a lickle more complex, but maybe not.. who knows for sure? We do many things without thinking through why we do them and often attach flippant reasons to why when the real reason which has driven us is a million miles away from our childish notion of ourselves and our desires...

[PeninAZ]

I don't know, to me "bicurious" is simply another way of saying "inconclusively bisexual," an interest for the same sex, but no experience with which to determine what's up with you. "to prove something to myself" seems like a shy excuse, I understand though how "it's hard to put it into words", sexuality is like that, confusing, often fluent, but not everybody is as in touch with their urges as others. Straight married people can have bi-interest without without much notice, while others can be more aware. Some will entertain this sense alien to them, others go on letting it alone. Some in the latter will either enter into bicuriosity, while still others will simply let it fade into obscurity.

It is what it is, is there a need for excuse or reason?

[tenni]

bump up due to trolling