More gay than bi

[sisboy]

Today was a great day.Since I left my bud he has sent me three texts on how much he enjoyed our time together and is looking for more.I was the one who really enjoyed and enjoyed just laying there with him on top of still indide me after he came and was not in a hurry to pull out like most other.Just laying there with him soft inside was an experience I have never had before.Problem now is rthat I think he pushed me over the edge where I was losing the urge to be a woman I cannot stop thkining about my bud and when will we be together again.He said he really wants to see me dressed and enjoy me liike that.I cannot forget the feeling while we going at it so slow and I would feel him just about pop out and hope that he would not pull out.Then he would go back in me ever so slow and gentle it drove me crazy in excitement.So after being taken as I was today I think I may have crossed over to the gay side.He also said he was bi but there is just something there.Call it great sex or whatever I guarantee that if other bis were taken like that they would cross over too.As I said earlier the good part is that I do not have to share him with my wife.He is mine!

[tenni]

Hi
I do not do anal and so I may not completely identify with you on your specifics. I've read several comments on bisexual sites where the guy(usually a guy) questions along the monosexual line about where they are. Gay or hetero. I'd suggest that you look at this as bisexual or monosexual. Identifying as bisexual gives you more lee way and fluidity. You may be entering a strong same sex preference but over time you may also find your attraction to women returning. If that happens you are bisexual and fluid in your attraction. Years may go by with you thinking that you are only attracted to same sex before the pendulum swings back to women. Wait and see. Don't get hung up on labels. As our life goes on, bisexual tend to swing like a pendulum while some remain the same. Your mind will let you know.

[pole_smoker]

It sounds as though you are gay, and are not bisexual. Not only because of this post but you did post other stuff that says that you are gay.

[pole_smoker]

Hi
I do not do anal and so I may not completely identify with you on your specifics. I've read several comments on bisexual sites where the guy(usually a guy) questions along the monosexual line about where they are. Gay or hetero. I'd suggest that you look at this as bisexual or monosexual. Identifying as bisexual gives you more lee way and fluidity. You may be entering a strong same sex preference but over time you may also find your attraction to women returning. If that happens you are bisexual and fluid in your attraction. Years may go by with you thinking that you are only attracted to same sex before the pendulum swings back to women. Wait and see. Don't get hung up on labels. As our life goes on, bisexual tend to swing like a pendulum while some remain the same. Your mind will let you know.
More homophobic bs from tenni this site's major troll. :rolleyes:

[void()]

Problem now is rthat I think he pushed me over the edge where I was losing the urge to be a woman

You're in control of yourself, hopefully. Relax & breathe. Great sex can stir a lot of feelings. Enjoy. Like tenni suggests, try not labeling. Give yourself room to enjoy, to live, to grow.

[silvio]

Who cares about the label or the clothes! Enjoy the dick in your ass and be happy :)

[Franz007]

Just enjoy it ;-)

I would say that if you have feelings for that man, other than just the sexual feeling of his cock, you may be perhaps gay, but only if you dont have any emotional attraction to women (anymore). Otherwise you are fully bi or just (like me) who likes from time to time a cock in me without any emotional feelings :-)

[pole_smoker]

Just enjoy it ;-)

I would say that if you have feelings for that man, other than just the sexual feeling of his cock, you may be perhaps gay, but only if you dont have any emotional attraction to women (anymore). Otherwise you are fully bi or just (like me) who likes from time to time a cock in me without any emotional feelings :-)
Emotionally attraction towards women doesn't mean anything when it comes to someone's sexuality.

I know gay men who told me how they had sex or did have an emotional attraction towards women; but how they are not sexually attracted to women.

With sexuality it's all about who you are actually sexually attracted to.

With people like ourselves who are bisexual we are sexually attracted to both sexes or genders; but someone that's gay they are only sexually attracted to the same gender.

[Franz007]

Emotionally attraction towards women doesn't mean anything when it comes to someone's sexuality.

I know gay men who told me how they had sex or did have an emotional attraction towards women; but how they are not sexually attracted to women.

With sexuality it's all about who you are actually sexually attracted to.

With people like ourselves who are bisexual we are sexually attracted to both sexes or genders; but someone that's gay they are only sexually attracted to the same gender.

There are different views on that, even in the scientific world, because there are a lot more people than just gay, bi ore straight. A lot of colours beetween. So there are still no evidence if more the emotional feeling or the sexual feeling defines ones general Orientation. So what you write here seems more to fit to you personally but not necessary to everyone.

Whatever, i would define me as 'bi' as well if i had to choose beetween only these possibilities. But as we know, the emotional attraction is a huge factor in the way we interact with others. And in my opinion, only a man who loves women but is able to have a love-relationship with a man as well is a real bisexual.

But as i said, there are thousands of different opinions about that. So you just can't affirm what you do as a general true.

[NakedInSeattle]

Labels! I tell people who care to listen that I'm a gay man who still likes the taste and feel of pussy. Bi is shorter!

[cheil77]

I'm bi and my preference was ladies but I think I like fuckin men better have had the best sex of my life since I came out as.bi and started pursuing men I find my self more turned on sucking a nice dick

[cuttin2dachase]

I am not capable of emotional feelings of love with men although I do enjoy romance, intimacy and sex with men. With a woman, that intimacy & romance can turn in to love over time, but with men it can only turn into male bonding/friendship and a FWB relationship. I don't feel more gay nor do I feel more bi. All I feel is an equal sexual desire for women and men. There's always the hope, if not the expectation, that regular or semi-regular sexual encounters will occur if my partner/s and I click socially and sexually.

[pole_smoker]

I am not capable of emotional feelings of love with men although I do enjoy romance, intimacy and sex with men. With a woman, that intimacy & romance can turn in to love over time, but with men it can only turn into male bonding/friendship and a FWB relationship. I don't feel more gay nor do I feel more bi. All I feel is an equal sexual desire for women and men. There's always the hope, if not the expectation, that regular or semi-regular sexual encounters will occur if my partner/s and I click socially and sexually.
:rolleyes: You don't have 'romance' with men since you do not fall in love with them or have an actual romantic/emotional attraction to them, and just want men as fuck buddies or sex toys; but what sort of woman or man would actually want you in any way at all? :rolleyes: ;)

[whispering]

The important thing is that you express your sexuality, however you are able to, and however you genuinely feel it. That's a big task.

My own experience is that my preferences are fluid and changing. There is a body of data to suggest that women are more fluid in their sexuality than men, and also that, once men enter a homosexual relationship, they tend to stay at that end of the pendulum. That's interesting, and perhaps defines something as "normal", but it doesn't define YOU.

If we want labels, I suggest three fundamental categories:

(1) Who do you have sex with?
Men, women, dogs, self (solosexual), nobody (asexual) ?
(2) Who do you fall in love with?
Men, women, dogs, cats (we all love pets)?
(3) How do you present yourself to others?
A guy? A woman? Queer?

[pole_smoker]

There is a body of data to suggest that women are more fluid in their sexuality than men, and also that, once men enter a homosexual relationship, they tend to stay at that end of the pendulum.
Where are you getting that information from? It's total BS.

[whispering]

Where are you getting that information from? It's total BS.

Fox News, of course. (http://www.foxnews.com/health/2015/08/26/women-sexuality-partially-depends-on-romantic-options-study-says/?intcmp=hphz02) Quoting an academic study. There are also studies in neuroscience that support the hard-wiring of male sexuality, and the softer wiring of female sexuality, but I won't bother to look up the links for you. Men's arousal is shaped by their early sexual experiences, and men tend to like the same thing all their lives. Women's arousal is more fluid and changeable according to external conditions of romance and security.

You can also look around. I'm friends with a number of men who, through divorce or menopause, went looking for sexual relief from other men, and who now are almost uninterested in women sexually

The classic "excuse" men give for "experimenting" is that men are much less trouble than women, which is to say, they don't require the emotional and romantic component that their women do for arousal. But once men have exercised their "practical" choice to be with another man, they experience a deep erotic attraction to male sex. Many of us have experienced that, once the social inhibitions against male sex have been weakened, our desires grow beyond anything we imagined.

The article makes a big deal of opportunistic sex among women, but it's strong among men, though different. I've been fascinated by opportunistic sex among men, sex in the absence of women, like in the military, prisons and among hobos. Male sexual bonding has gone on, sometimes with social acceptance, in most societies throughout history, and I believe it's innate. So, what is it about "slut" that you don't understand?

[pole_smoker]

Fox News, of course. (http://www.foxnews.com/health/2015/08/26/women-sexuality-partially-depends-on-romantic-options-study-says/?intcmp=hphz02) Quoting an academic study. There are also studies in neuroscience that support the hard-wiring of male sexuality, and the softer wiring of female sexuality, but I won't bother to look up the links for you. Men's arousal is shaped by their early sexual experiences, and men tend to like the same thing all their lives. Women's arousal is more fluid and changeable according to external conditions of romance and security.

You can also look around. I'm friends with a number of men who, through divorce or menopause, went looking for sexual relief from other men, and who now are almost uninterested in women sexually

The classic "excuse" men give for "experimenting" is that men are much less trouble than women, which is to say, they don't require the emotional and romantic component that their women do for arousal. But once men have exercised their "practical" choice to be with another man, they experience a deep erotic attraction to male sex. Many of us have experienced that, once the social inhibitions against male sex have been weakened, our desires grow beyond anything we imagined.

The article makes a big deal of opportunistic sex among women, but it's strong among men, though different. I've been fascinated by opportunistic sex among men, sex in the absence of women, like in the military, prisons and among hobos. Male sexual bonding has gone on, sometimes with social acceptance, in most societies throughout history, and I believe it's innate. So, what is it about "slut" that you don't understand?
So you actually believe those BS studies and Fox News? LOL :rolleyes:

[whispering]

So you actually believe those BS studies and Fox News? LOL :rolleyes:

I believe my own experience.

[pole_smoker]

I believe my own experience.

So you have given up women completely then, even the walking Petri dish of STDs/whore you had as a 'roommate'? :rolleyes: ;)