Worry about diseases?

[sulkey2006]

I see there are quite a few guys on here that suck and get sucked A LOT! Also seems like anonymous hook-ups with guys you don't know is pretty common. Don't you guys worry about diseases and picking something up that you don't want? Especially the closeted and married guys. Just curious why nobody seems to concerned. I refrain mostly because of that concern; not because it doesn't sound fun. Am I overly cautious or are there too many reckless guys out there?

[sysper]

i think about that too. sometimes i think about going to an abs some nite & have a bunch of guys use me, it's more of a fantasy don't know if i'd actually wanna do it. a major reason is i'm afraid of diseases. oral is probably safer but i'd read about std's before trying anything to be sure, also checkout the guy see if i can trust him. good to think about it & be concerned.

[Neonaught]

Oral is relatively low risk since the slight acidity of saliva kills the HIV virus. Herpes is a different story but can be spotted (pun!) pretty easy if they are having an outbreak, which is when they are most contagious. Ass to mouth or rimming an unclean ass do present a measure of risk for hepatitis. Gonorrhea is evidenced by a penile discharge most of us would notice if we looked for it. The isom measure of risk to everything we do so know the risks an protect yourself accordingly!

[bikurinpa]

I see there are quite a few guys on here that suck and get sucked A LOT! Also seems like anonymous hook-ups with guys you don't know is pretty common. Don't you guys worry about diseases and picking something up that you don't want? Especially the closeted and married guys. Just curious why nobody seems to concerned. I refrain mostly because of that concern; not because it doesn't sound fun. Am I overly cautious or are there too many reckless guys out there?
That is the problem with these sites, most all guys get more ass then a toilet seat, want a different guy every day. It seems totally impossible to find anyone who does want someone as a regular and for friendship. Just wont find that no where.

[void()]

That is the problem with these sites, most all guys get more ass then a toilet seat, want a different guy every day. It seems totally impossible to find anyone who does want someone as a regular and for friendship. Just wont find that no where.

I don't desire more ass than a toilet seat, some would be nice though. I agree with you. It is difficult finding anyone wanting more than nsa sex. Recently, thought I had found someone wanting more locally. My mistake was thinking. *chuckles*

[tenni]

sulky
You have to use your own judgement and ask questions of any potential partner. As has been written some diseases like HIV are less likely to be transmitted by oral than say HPV which can lead to cancer of the mouth. Even that is not that proven to have come from one partner...female or male. There are many forms of HPV and only one that "may" lead to oral cancer. You could get that HPV from kissing a girl when you were 14 and the cancer not show until 50's.... Where I live both girls and boys around 12-13 are given the vaccine to prevent HPV free.


Life is a risk. We each make our own decisions.

[jem_is_bi]

sulky
You have to use your own judgement


Life is a risk. We each make our own decisions.

I totally agree. Without taking calculated risks your life experiences will be diminished. But, as Tenni said, we all make our own decisions.

[SuckerMC]

This and being outed is why I have not gone though with it and sucked a cock. I'm afraid it will always be a fantasy.

[cuttin2dachase]

A maxim I live by is to never worry about that which could or might happen...it only adds to life's other stresses. My Dad always said it's OK to be concerned about things that might happen, but never let concern about any of those things turn to worry unless those things actually do happen. Then it's time to worry and find a way to deal with what's happened.

It is indeed prudent and commendable to be aware and concerned about STDs. But to worry about getting an STD from sucking a cock? It's only time to worry about getting and STD when you've actually gotten one. If you're aware of and concerned about the risks of mm oral sex, there's a thing called safe sex you are probably also aware of. It doesn't make any sense to let yourself be paralyzed with fear about fulfilling a burning desire and craving to suck a cock when you can do it safely. Unless you have open sores or bleeding gums on your lips or in your mouth, there is a very minimal risk of contracting STDs from giving oral sex and ingesting cum. If you don't ingest or swallow cum, the risk becomes almost nil. I stopped swallowing cum or even taking it past my lips about 10 years ago. It was precisely because I had developed receding, bleeding gums. And when I thought about the gallon or more of cum I'd swallowed in the previous 20 years, I considered myself lucky to have never contracted any STDs. I made my own decision to quit swallowing while I was ahead (no pun intended). It didn't stop me from seeking and sucking cocks to this day, because I make it clear to partners before we start that I want them to either tell me or pull out a second or two before the point of no return and cum on me. I vet them online with plenty of chat and questions about their sexual habits before we meet and get a feel as to whether they'll respect my preference to not ingest their cum.

[Realist]

I decided long ago that I would be overly cautious, instead of overly dead!

My very first lover discussed the ramifications of jumping into the sack with just anyone who came a long.....and that was many years before AIDS showed up. I was impatient, needy, and had a voracious sexual appetite, but safety before sex was instilled in me, before the actual pleasures were presented. He was a much older and wiser neighbor, who knew me well and trusted me before we were ever intimate. It actually took a year for me to convince him that I wanted him to be my first. The wait was excruciatingly frustrating, to have to wait that long, but he knew every thing about me before I was afforded that experience. I assure you, that 1st time was out of this world and worth the wait.

I've had about 15 male partners since 1954, every one of them were some form of relationship. Some were platonic partners, some were FWBs, and a few were genuine lovers, All but one were experiences I will cherish to my dying day! About half of them were first-timers and I attempted to instill in them my concerns for safety.

I always knew I'd have to be in a relationship before sex was an option. I've never been with a stranger, had a one-night stand, or had sex with any male I didn't know well and trust beforehand. I've also never used protection with a male Partner.

I know my system in not infallible; nothing's 100% safe, and I would never recommend that anyone follow my examples, but it's worked for me.

Just be safe, people.

[lizard-lix]

....there is a very minimal risk of contracting STDs from giving oral sex and ingesting cum.....

A lot of folks say that and maybe even believe it, but it's not true.

Sucking a perfectly good looking cock, and not getting cum in your mouth (which is pretty impossible as almost all guys leak some pre cum), can still get you hepatitis, gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia, HPV (genital warts, they can induce throat cancer if you get them orally) and Thrush (yeast). Some more easily than others, some may not show any signs under a bright light, some may (but they may be light or not there at all). HIV is really the least of your worries, orally at least.

I get this info from my wife, who is a retired NP/PA who practiced public medicine in NY State and NYC. She used to do real life sex ed for the neighbor kids (and we still have all of the medical textbooks).

That said, she still gave me the hall pass (but said if I give her anything, she will never touch me again, sexually).

If you are careful, get tested, make sure your partners get tested and establish trust with your partners, you are likely to be OK, it boggles my mind when guys or gals who take on multiple unknown partners and don't get anything, the odds are definitely against it.

Some friends have a sliding scale.. If they don't know the person but want to play, they use condoms, rubber gloves (very thin) and no oral. They lose the gloves (sometimes, oiled gloves are fun too :-) and add oral once trust has been established, and keep the condoms except for the one person they fluid bond with. They get tested about quarterly to make sure and have been going at it for years safely. I saw an interview with an old porn star, Anna Malle, and when she and her hubby swung, they used gloves, condoms and dental dams/saran wrap for no oral/genital skin to skin at all. They were both porn models and took safe sex super carefully (this was also at the peak of AIDS).

I love gettign dirty, gooey and sticky with my partners, but I am super careful about who I'll do that with and would much rather even suck a rubber than end up gettign something.