How many Bi married guys told your wives?

[GuyN20109]

I'm curious about the question. I want to check out my bi side but no way could I tell my wife. Anyone else?

[Fizban]

If you plan on exploring the bisexual lifestyle, you need to tell your wife. I have been married 33 years and just recently told my wife about my bisexuality and my desire to explore the lifestyle. I told her that I could not lie to her. While not totally accepting my relevation, she agreed to support me and I believe my marriage has become stronger. So if you decide to take the step, you need to sit down with her and explain how you feel. Good luck!

[TheThreeOfUs]

I think your first obligation is to your wife to tell her. If she loves you she will support you or at very least try to understand. But yeah itll be hard to tell her but if you dont and you do explore your bi side then youve cheated on her and never gave her the chance to even know or help you with your feelings. Give her a chance :) Btw my husband told me he was bi the night we moved in together and I responded with "Me too!!" lol

Good luck!

[Tingly_Tickles]

I don't remember exactly when but I know I told her before we even got married
and nothing has changed on that aspect we both love and respect each other
just as much or more than before we got married.
I think you should tell her it will be hard for her prolly at first unless of course
she is bi herself then she'll just say ok neat.
Honesty as I've found is seriously the best policy to uphold in a relationship it
helps to keep things strong.

[FalconAngel]

My wife has known since we were dating.

[deaconblues]

I have a unique situation - my wife is an alcoholic, and I spend most of my time in the evenings taking care of her. She is still at the stage where she can function during the day, but after a few hours of imbibing after 5, she becomes incoherent, and largely uncommunicative. I fear that sharing my true feelings with her would bring a devastating blow to her, and strongly feel the obligation to take care of her, and will not abandon her in this obvious time of need. She will not admit that she has a treatable problem, and I will always be there for her. There is just no intimacy in our relationship. I'm really torn, but am hesitant to take any positive action. In the meantime, I have a closeted existence which brings me much pleasure, but I'm frustrated that I can't be honest with her. Maybe this is a unique situation, but somehow, I don't think so - I hear from a lot of men that say their wife doesn't have a clue. Anybody got anything to add? I'd appreciate any advice, or to hear from anyone who has a similar experience. I've never shared this with anyone before, but this forum offers so much good "I've been there" commentary, that I'd welcome any remarks. Thanks to all of you......

[afterdark75]

Mine knew right off the bat. Never have kept it frm anyone I was involved with, some did not stay and some did. Have been bisexual as long as I can recall so not something I am gonna hide.

[Solomon]

I'm curious about the question. I want to check out my bi side but no way could I tell my wife. Anyone else?

i'm confused, is the question how many guys have or have not told their wives?

[dibbspixie]

I think your first obligation is to your wife to tell her. If she loves you she will support you or at very least try to understand. But yeah itll be hard to tell her but if you dont and you do explore your bi side then youve cheated on her and never gave her the chance to even know or help you with your feelings. Give her a chance :) Btw my husband told me he was bi the night we moved in together and I responded with "Me too!!" lol

Good luck!

i could't agree more. You have to be honest to your wife. If you don't and you do explore your bi side can you live with the quilt. If you discuss it before you explore at least you can be truthfull. When i told my wife i was scared to death, thought she would go mad. but like in this quote she basically said "me too" and we have never looked back since.
Hope you find your answer.

[etncple]

I have a unique situation - my wife is an alcoholic, and I spend most of my time in the evenings taking care of her. She is still at the stage where she can function during the day, but after a few hours of imbibing after 5, she becomes incoherent, and largely uncommunicative. I fear that sharing my true feelings with her would bring a devastating blow to her, and strongly feel the obligation to take care of her, and will not abandon her in this obvious time of need. She will not admit that she has a treatable problem, and I will always be there for her. There is just no intimacy in our relationship. I'm really torn, but am hesitant to take any positive action. In the meantime, I have a closeted existence which brings me much pleasure, but I'm frustrated that I can't be honest with her. Maybe this is a unique situation, but somehow, I don't think so - I hear from a lot of men that say their wife doesn't have a clue. Anybody got anything to add? I'd appreciate any advice, or to hear from anyone who has a similar experience. I've never shared this with anyone before, but this forum offers so much good "I've been there" commentary, that I'd welcome any remarks. Thanks to all of you......

I told my wife when we fist got together, before we got married and I am soooo glad i did. She had also had a bi experience in the past, as i had, and wanted to again also so she said as long as we acted on these feelings together, lets try and see what happens.
As someone trained in alcohol and drug addiction, your wife has no reason to feel she needs any treatment since you are "taking care" of her. This enabling will only ensure the problem will continue. I hope you try some counseling or Al-Anon for yourself as the the alcoholic/drug addict affects everyone around them, husbands, friends, kids etc. Good luck

[hydropop]

I believe that being honest and up front to your wife is the most important thing you can do. She will either except or she wont. I recently told my wife I want to try bi and she was kinda shocked , only because ive always been the manly man sort of guy. It was a hudge weigh off my shoulders and a relief. She told me I had the right to explore and was glad to I was secure enough to tell her. Guess after 19 years of marriage we should be comfy enough to tell eachother anything. By the way her being bi did help me tell her. Just be honest with your wife, honesty is the best policy.

[jack6two]

With me the same!
so long i can think, i have noticed, that cocks and nice asses turn me on, more than pussies and bog boops! :male: :female:
But with my wife or childs i never can tell about. :rolleyes:

[smokey]

I did... we discussed it before we married and I let her know in no uncertain terms that I did not play around when I was in a relationship... and I didn't. I think it is extremely selfish to do otherwise.

[scubaman]

Told my wife a couple of years ago, it came as no surprise to her. Not only is she my wife, but most importantly, she is my best friend. She knows more about me than I know of myself. Good luck with your quest!