I will soon be having my first Bi experience... help!

[Curio jim]

Hi I will soon be having my first Bi experience, and am a bit nervous as I have never been with a man before but very open minded and have a high sex drive, I am sure you all can give me some hints and tips to make it all 'go down smooth'

[NakedInSeattle]

Just do to him what you like done to you. Isn't that the "golden rule?"

[TrimBeardHairyBod]

Hi Jim

You haven't told us if the other guy is someone you've already met socially or if it's someone you've only instant messaged / exchanged e-mails with.

If it's the latter, be aware that it's the easiest thing in the world to project your hopes and fantasies onto someone you know a bit - but not much - about. Reality only begins the moment you lay eyes on each other and sometimes, it can strike hard. When you meet, ask yourself, 'How relaxed do I feel in his company? How relaxed does he feel with me?' If things don't seem 'right', keep your clothes on.

Is ths fella sexually experienced with men or will it be his first time too? If it's the former, try as best you can to set the pace yourself. Any worthwhile partner will understand this.

My first two experiences with men were impersonal and very much sex-for-the-sake-of-it scenarios. To some extent, I went away feeling used and although they didn't leave me emotionally scarred for life, the experiences did put a damper on my ardour. You want to go away thinking (((WOW))) and not 'Is that all it is?' so don't underestimate the importance of non-sexual communication.

I do hope you'll find this useful. How about letting us know how things work out!

[anne27]

Just relax and enjoy the experience and your lover's body. Try not to stress. Have a drink, if it would ease some of your tension, but stick to one or two drinks max. Listen to the sounds your partner makes and react to them. If he groans when you touch or lick him in a certain area, keep it up. Watch your teeth. Most of all, enjoy!

Hope you have a wonderful experience!

[DiamondDog]

what sort of sex do you think that you'll be doing with him?

[bohemian69]

Well first - Congrats!!!
Like NakedinSeattle said, follow the golden rule.
You know what feels good to you when someones doing it to you, so just turn it around and what ever felt good to you, do to him.
And just take your time and ENJOY!!!! :bigrin:

[open2both]

Awwww, another man getting his "cherry popped." Sigh. I remember my first time like it was yesterday...FABULOUS!
Now go on out there and make us all proud!!!
Your life has now FOREVER changed for the better.

[Azrael]

what sort of sex do you think that you'll be doing with him?
Who knows? I just think it's funny how NOBODY here refers to two men or two women having fun as "gay sex". It's like, "If I call it bi it's not impure" or some shit like that. The gay community gets a lot of slag from us bi folks and a lot of it is totally uncalled for. A lot of bi folks don't like me cause I'm not straight acting enough or whatever. But I aint straight, so why imitate? I'm not giving anyone here in particular shit, and I know some gay folks can be really catty towards us bi folks, but I love my gay friends, and would like to see a little more respect. So when is homosexual fornication not homosexual fornication, and why does calling it such cause so many of us to get on the defensive end? I dunno. Time to take my independent thought squelching pills, I mean seroquel :bigrin:
OH, AND ONE MORE THING: ENOUGH ABOUT HOW MUCH YOU ENJOY BEING IN 'THE LIFESTYLE' :banghead:

[biwords]

DOn't be afraid to indicate what you do and don't want. Someone who won't respect your boundaries isn't someone you want to be having sex with, IMHO. No compromises on your own safety standards, especially.

Let us know how it went and what you thought of all this advice from everyone! Very best wishes.

[darkeyes]

lay back an don think of England... jus let it flow an do wot cums natural....

[Curio jim]

Thanks guys, lots of good advise here, will take everything into consideration, I have only just met the couple, just started chatting on MSN, they are not my ideal looking couple (not exactly model material, like in our dreams) but I am not here for a lover I am here for a fuck (sorry to be so crude) I want to see what it is like and if I will enjoy it, Its strange I could never kiss a man, but I could suck his cock and fuck him, is this common?

Should I wait for a couple I find more attractive?
I know the experience would be better, but I have not yet met a couple that are interested in a bi man, most want a bi couple or are single gay men looking for fun, I want the experience of both man and woman together not just a man.

Questions questions questions, I am having second doubts about this couple I am 30 and they are in their late 50's maybe I should find a couple more my age and more aesthetically pleasing!!! (anyone out there in the South East UK?)

Anymore advise would be gratefully appreciated.
All the best Jimbo