no profiles.no photo

[RIfitbiguy]

It is pretty amazing how many people can come to this site,not have a profile, and expect to chat with people that have had the courtesy to write at least a basic profile,describing a little what they are about,or give an inkling, as to what they may be about.Also, a photo says one thousand words... .Dont expect to chat, ask 20 questions, when YOU are not willing to share a little about yourself.Those of us who have taken the time and thought into a profile,are not here to sustain, your selfish outlook!

[rissababynta]

Personally, I do not write off people who have no profiles. I feel that their reasoning for not having one is their business. However, don't appreciate people reading mine, finding out some information, then insisting on just talking about me, how horny they are, or sex in general and the entire time we talk they do not care to share any information about themselves. I also am not a fan of a person with no profile getting annoyed at me for not answering all of their questions, no matter how tasteless they may be, simply because it is a demand of theirs.

But like I said, I have no problem conversing with people who have no problem. Just don't be a jerk please (that kinda goes for anyone, profile or not actually haha).

[barejerr]

It is pretty amazing how many people can come to this site,not have a profile, and expect to chat with people that have had the courtesy to write at least a basic profile,describing a little what they are about,or give an inkling, as to what they may be about.Also, a photo says one thousand words... .Dont expect to chat, ask 20 questions, when YOU are not willing to share a little about yourself.Those of us who have taken the time and thought into a profile,are not here to sustain, your selfish outlook!

Well, I can relate to what you are saying in part... 1st part, i agree, a few people don;t fill out their profiles or add pictures... I just say that they probily weren;t worth the effort anyway..

Now my pet peeve.. is that you have some people who did write a profile, you responded and they asked "what you were into" You wrote a very descriptive letter back and they replied "ok" nothing else....

Now in defense of not writing a profile or not having pictures... A few people will have difficulty describing themself's or or posting picture out of discreetion.. Myself I don;t suffer from that ailment, I have been bi since before I knew there was a word for a man that liked both men and women, and I am pretty much "out" to almost everyone. But I know a lot of bi men, couple women, that aren;t out to anyone, and feel it isn't anyones business what they do in private life, so I understand both sides... I don;t nessessarily agree with it

[rissababynta]

This is true, I know many people on this site who simply just don't post their pics because they don't want their images plasted on a website or on the web period, but if they got to know you and evrything they have no problems showing you their pics. I find nothing wrong with this.

[Doggiestyle]

:confused: Yeah, I agree at least put up a short little something about who you are. And or what youre like

But there are 2 things that amaze me.

After chattin with some people (or more like havin to deal with some people) you will later look at their profiles and they will describe themselves as real nice, careing, courteous, ETC. Or at least the way they seem in the chat room is not what they say about themselves in their profile.

Also when in the members list when lookin for somebody you go through the list and see lots of people that have a "joined date" and a short time later was their "last visit date" and that would be years ago.

I can see why they really can't delete them cause of their postings in the forums (if any) and if you saw a name in the forums and you tried to look them up and could not find them, then that would cause some wondering and head scratching. However if they didn't have any postings (most don't) then you could delete them without any problem.
Maybe they should delete somebody thats obviously not coming back. Or maybe if you leave a reason or prior arrangements with the mgm't or something????? Dammedifiknow!!! :confused:

Thats just me a thinkin, and thats not really a dangerous thing. :rolleyes:

Your friend, Doggie..........:doggie:.............:flag3:

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Yeah, I personally dont like conversing with someone who doesnt have at least a Little info about themselves. To me, that indicates that they are perhaps hiding something, being sneaky, or they dont want to be serious enough about making friends. I dont want to be just someone that a guy thinks he can talk to to get off by.
No, I'd much rather talk to someone who is open and honest about who they are and what they are looking For.
Just my humble:2cents:
Cat

[MaybeSayMaybe]

Some people have legitimate reasons to be a little bit coy. Just remember that although people throw a lot of things around here, it is a public record that can be abused by others, and there is no shortage of people who are freaked out by this subject matter, even in today's enlightened society. Not to mention the usual cast of shitheads that are a fact of life. And it may always be like that to some degree.

Anyway, there is is a certain allure to an environment where people interact purely on the basis of their ideas, or as Martin Luther King said, the content of their minds.

So loosen up and expand your mind. I guess my residual hippie thing never quite died.

[Shhhhh 47/F/usa]

No pictures I can understand.....people are concerned about their privacy. No information at all in the profile and I immediately assume that person is only here to find some one to have cyber sex with or other types of sexual chat to get off on. Perhaps that's not the case for everyone but it's what I assume since I've got no other information to go on. I won't respond to people in private chat that have no info in their profile unless they have been chatting in the main room enough that I get some kind of a feel for who they are and that they have half a brain and are not a minor.

[Realist]

I don't respond to those without profiles, either. I like to have an idea to whom I'm writing. I have a profile, so they should, too, if they want an answer. If they have a profile, and my photo doesn't scare then, I'll be happy to share some things with them.

[AdamKadmon43]

It is pretty amazing how many people can come to this site,not have a profile, and expect to chat with people that have had the courtesy to write at least a basic profile,describing a little what they are about,or give an inkling, as to what they may be about.Also, a photo says one thousand words... .Dont expect to chat, ask 20 questions, when YOU are not willing to share a little about yourself.Those of us who have taken the time and thought into a profile,are not here to sustain, your selfish outlook!

Trust me... if you posted a profile in here and, as a result, endured the viscous attacks and unsolicited propositions that I did, you would get rid of your profile too.

***Still can't figure out how to get rid of that little thumbnail picture of me.***

[BrotherJack]

Trust me... if you posted a profile in here and, as a result, endured the viscous attacks and unsolicited propositions that I did, you would get rid of your profile too.

***Still can't figure out how to get rid of that little thumbnail picture of me.***

I guess I don't have a profile and i most certainly would not post a photograph of myself....but if anyone talks to me....it will soon be clear to the...I hope....that I am not a liar and have nothing to hide.

Some people use a site as a place to find an audience and don't care what people think. They don't care if they post the truth or lies.

If people have put a photograph of themself on the site, then it is because they wanted to. They didn't have to. They don't have to.

What I do think would be a good idea, is if people were actually able to delete their account, so that it did not continue to be in the Members list for years. So many in the list have not visited for years. These people could always rejoin the site....so why no ability to delete accounts. other sites have such facilities

[Holmes]

I hav e a profile , but no photo. My profile I hope says it all Newbie andtesting the waters. No photo privacy and I really don't like pictures of myself. These would be pic with clothes on .I look better with clothes on in a tux I am unbelievably adorable ( I clean up well) LOL. Seriously I just don't like pic of myself. I have only cybered twice in my life and it has happened here in the chat room . I am just trying to meet people and work through this new stage of my life. Not creeping or trolling. my 2 cents

[curious f]

I have a profile but no photo, because I do not want photoes of myself plastered on the web, but I do however offer to send my photo out to people I chat with, although don't expect a photo after 5 mins...

I see no harm in at least filling out a little bit about yourself, but I can perfectly understand why some people choose not to share their photoes with the whole world at one easy click, but that it just my opionion....

[_Joe_]

You know, the profiles can even say "im super mysterious, as I'm also a spy, and maybe also Im in the witness protection program"

This is better than nothing at all.

[FalconAngel]

You know, this thread kind of parallels the other thread on "single Bi guys" in a few ways. And no offense, but this subject has been directly covered on a few threads.

On the up side, it does need to be resurrected from time to time for new folks that haven't been here that long.

[robbie09]

As a new member, the issue for me is that you cannot create a profile without creating an "ad".

I have no desire to advertise myself on the site and have shied away from creating a profile for that reason.

[_Joe_]

Ad, Profile, its misused words for the same thing if you ask me.

[boca.openminded]

I have a profile but no photo, because I do not want photoes of myself plastered on the web, but I do however offer to send my photo out to people I chat with, although don't expect a photo after 5 mins...

I see no harm in at least filling out a little bit about yourself, but I can perfectly understand why some people choose not to share their photoes with the whole world at one easy click, but that it just my opionion....

I totally agree

As you notice I too do not have a photo (for the obvious reasons) but I do not understand why a blank profile too? Don't tell me that you have trouble writing about yourself. Thats bs. You can write a paragraph or 2 about who you are or why you are on this site. I tried to tell who I am and why I am here. That way even though I do not have a photo at least you know who I am.

I do like to add 1 more thing. Save your profile and the next day you will get emails from lurkers. These are the same people I call "mouths" and are on craigslist. They are either seeking somebody for sex (so they can forward their diseases) or even worse. Not only do they not have a photo or a profile BUT they also do not have any posts. This is a sure sign that there is something wrong.

Be careful

[MikeW]

I can totally understand why many people don't post a profile. For a lot of members bisexual dot com is a first step in dealing with their sexuality. The person probably isn't (for whatever reason) ready to be that open.

I'll chat with anybody. If they're a jerk the chat will be over fast. Having a profile or not has no bearing on that.

Mike W

[jeancarleo]

i don't care if they have a profile or not as long as you can communicate with them via IM. A webcam is a plus since it's way better than pictures and you can always talk with a microphone or by phone and get to know the person better, that's just my point of view.

[rissababynta]

I can totally understand why many people don't post a profile. For a lot of members bisexual dot com is a first step in dealing with their sexuality. The person probably isn't (for whatever reason) ready to be that open.

I'll chat with anybody. If they're a jerk the chat will be over fast. Having a profile or not has no bearing on that.

Mike W

I agree. Some of the best people I've chatted with didn't have a profile and some of the biggest jerks I've come across did, so to me it's more important what kind of a person you while we are actually communicating.

Truthfully, I hardly check people's profiles anymore in chat anyway...

[PolyLoveTriad]

I once went to a nude beach where a man was up hiding in the trees and bushes with a pair of binoculars... to me, the one with no profile is that same guy... just trying to get his rocks off

[MikeW]

I once went to a nude beach where a man was up hiding in the trees and bushes with a pair of binoculars... to me, the one with no profile is that same guy... just trying to get his rocks off

I'm sure some are. A lot aren't. I hate to paint such a wide storke in either direction but I tend to give the benefit of the doubt. I can always close the window if they give me any reason.

[sexy couple]

All of you have made very good points. The reason we have 'disabled' our profile is a very positive one: We met another couple through this site, with whom we are very happy and we all meet regularly. We all agreed to not meet with anyone else. We found that keeping our profile on, even when we emphasized we were not looking for anyone right now, we were still getting a lot of propositions and emails. The decision to disable our ads was mutual, as they did the same. We are very, very happy with this couple and very thankful for this site for bringing us all together! :grouphug:

[welickit]

Having a profile or not is a matter each of us deal with in our own way. We get emails from folks that have no profile information and we simply delete it. We respect their right to not have a profile and we exercise our right to delete their email without answering. Most are one or two sentence emails that contain nothing of interest to us. If you can't say something why bother emailing to begin with? :2cents:

[MisuzHouston]

I myself don't usually reply to people with no profiles.. I would like to have an idea of whoever I'm going to talk to... and maybe one picture is preferable, but not totally necessary. But that's just me.

[BiJoe696]

I tend to agree with jeancarleo and would like to add that it seems that persons who ask for the most pics when chatting have none posted. A web cam chat helps confirm who you are chatting with also.
Just an fyi for web cammers, skype is so much better than the Ya WHo IM for voice and video, and free. I ( or we) don't post face pics and send only after chatting for a while. We have been attacked on other sites by flammers, but just put on ignore lists.

[AshMash]

i think that no one should be judged b4 you talk to them one on one. profile or no profile. i mean you can find out what you need to know just by talking to them, right?

[rissababynta]

i think that no one should be judged b4 you talk to them one on one. profile or no profile. i mean you can find out what you need to know just by talking to them, right?

That's pretty much my motto. There are people that I have spoken here that were very nice and that I had great conversations with who had no profile. If I had decided to brush them off just for not filling out a profile, I would have missed out on getting to know a nice person. Now, if someone with no profile and no pictures emails me or messeges me immediately saying something along the lines of "You're hot, got anymore pics you could put up or send me?" then, sorry, I already have a bad taste in my mouth about you.

[Keli808]

I try and give the benefit of the doubt, unless someone's actions are so overt as to make me suspect they are fake. Take for instance:
wantyouontop15, posing as a 19 year old female.

This person is a fake. Sent me e-mails and asked to chat and wanted my phone number and wanted to cam, yet they didnt have a cam.

Makes me leery now to chat with people with no profile or pic.

Keli

[rand822502]

What's the difference if someone has a profile or not. I'll bet that 2/3 of the profiles are probably lies that people tell about themselves.
I don't have a profile because I don't want one. If someone wants to know something about me they can ask.
When you first see a person face to face that you met for the first time in a public place do you not speak to them because you don't know there profile? I would think people would talk to people regardless whether or not they know anything about them or not.
Just my two cents.

[alegrias]

I have a profile. There are things that I want people to know about me if they're going to chat with me. Those things are in my profile.

On the other hand, my hubby and I have no intention of coming "out" in real life, so we don't want identifying information in our profile. That's also why I won't be posting any pics.