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12voltman59
Apr 18, 2009, 11:32 PM
Earlier this week---going through the local paper--they had a story about the death of one of their reporters---a lady named Valeryn. I had known her pretty well having worked with her a few years back--I knew her simply as Val and by another last name-her married surname--in recent years she had gone back to using her "maiden name."

At that time, she was a stringer for our area's metro daily paper---and I worked for the chain of community papers--I had two towns I had to work in---two different counties.

In the one town which also had two component---a city and the township surrounding that town--we covered the same beats, the local school board, city council, the township trustees and the zoning/planning boards for each. We also covered whatever else was going on in the combined area like fires, accidents, hostage situations--whatever happened.

Like a lot of things---you might have those moments of intense activity, mostly coming after hours of tedium and boredom waiting for something to go down.

In the case of official meetings---unless there was some issue that got people pissed----once the awards for the scouts, students and such had been done---other than the members of whatever body we were covering and maybe a few employees who had things to present--she and I were the only ones in the audience----and sometimes--the meeting ran way too late. They were really exciting--let me tell ya!!!

We tried to keep ourselves occupied by telling each other jokes-maybe one of us would grab a smoke and take notes for the other---we might have worked for different papers--but we were buds of a sort.

Well--damned if the story didn't say--the past few years she has been working as a fulltime reporter for the DDN (Dayton Daily News)--she was on her way to work on Tuesday---she had some sort of "medical emergency"--pulled her call off to the side of the interstate-but didn't even get to make a call on her cell for help---not too much time passed---a Ohio State Trooper stopped and found her unresponsive and called EMS--they responded in short order, but the EMTs declared her dead on scene.

They did perform an autopsy, something that is standard in cases like this, but as of yet the reason for her death hasn't been released--but you have to assume it was heart failure.

Val was 50---her parents had passed some years back. She was divorced from her hubby--that was a topic of discussion---her marriage had not been a happy one for too long and it went too long---she left him during the time we worked together and we talked about it--as much as she cared too--I never pried---letting her tell me what she felt she needed to divulge.

She left two grown, married sons and a 15 year old daughter.

Just the day before I had read a byline story she had done and also--ironically enough---several Obits.

Ya just don't know when its your time I guess.

I can't make her funeral since I am heading out on a trip on Sunday--but did send my condolences and will make a contribution to one of the charitable organizations that was listed in her obit when I return to town-- the local chapter of the SPCA.

The thing with her death--I had not seen her since I left that paper--but there was always a chance I would cross paths with her again covering something--but now--there is no chance of that obviously.

I know that none of you knew my friend---but I just had to get this off my chest---it sure is bumming me!!!!

Thanks for reading this ramble---

MarieDelta
Apr 18, 2009, 11:39 PM
Sorry for the loss of your friend Volty.

You have my sympathies. Let me know if there is anything I can do, OK?

Lonewolf76
Apr 19, 2009, 3:29 AM
Hi Volty,
I'm really sorry for your loss buddy. If you ever need or want to talk - you know I am here for you! I send healing prayers for your heart and prayers of peaceful passage for your friend. LW

12voltman59
Apr 19, 2009, 6:34 AM
thanks guys

rdy2go
Apr 19, 2009, 9:44 AM
So sorry to hear about the passing of your friend Volt.

meteast chick
Apr 19, 2009, 3:11 PM
I'm sorry Volty.

Don't know what else to say, I'm just sorry that happened.

lots of love and hugs,
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
meteast

Cherokee_Mountaincat
Apr 19, 2009, 5:21 PM
Darlin, we're all right here for you. Many of us have felt the pain and loss of a friend or loved one, and can sympathisize with what you are feeling.
If you need us, you know where we are. You arent alone...we're here. :}
Big hugs Sugar.
Cat

onewhocares
Apr 19, 2009, 6:31 PM
Volty,

Val was lucky to have called you friend. Just because we do not see people everyday does not mean they are not in our thoughts. Here is a big hug from Boston.

Belle

codybear3
Apr 20, 2009, 1:47 AM
My condolences, Voltman... In time, you will be able to share stories and each others company once again... :paw::paw:

AmericanBeauty
Apr 20, 2009, 4:27 AM
Sorry for your loss. :(

FalconAngel
Apr 20, 2009, 12:11 PM
Eventually, we all lose someone we know and love.

It hits most of us pretty hard, but remember that you knew the person and both your lives were made richer by the friendship. Your friend has gone on to a better place and someday, you will see each other again; either on the other side or in the next life.

Those that we know and love will always be with us, as long as we remember them and love them.

hudson9
Apr 20, 2009, 3:02 PM
Condolences, Volty. Reminds us again of how short and fragile life is -- too short to waste on pettiness, anger, and hate. And to never let pass an opportunity to tell someone what they mean to us.

Peace.

red_rose129
Apr 20, 2009, 7:15 PM
I'm so sorry to hear about your lost. losing someone is always difficult...

red

Doggie_Wood
Apr 21, 2009, 12:41 AM
Sorry to hear of your loss bud.
It's a shitty fealing - I know.
Hang in there my friend - message me if I can be of any help.

Doggie :doggie:

vittoria
Apr 21, 2009, 8:55 AM
Oh Volty!!! :(

Feeling bad for your loss sweetheart... Certainly know the feeling... celebrated to birthday of my dearly departed brother on the 2nd of this month, and the cut is still deep... we need to treasure and value all of our friendships and interactions with our fellow life travelers as best as possible, just like 'In a New York Minute' by Don Henley... "better take a fools advice, and take care of your own... for one day they're here, the next day they're gone--"

sending cyber hugs and big smooches from one part of oHIo to the other...

Vitt:grouphug: