How do you tell a GF that you are bi?

[fred fencesitter]

She's going to find out sooner or later. You have a few BFs in your past. You seem to be more into the ladies these days. You're healthy, non-risk-taking, and capable of being monogamous.

You figure that this isn't a 1st or 2nd date conversation. But when? And how to do it? You like this chick, and you're afraid of scaring her off.

[roy m cox]

well all i can say is go ez on her i told 2 girl friends that i am bi and they got upset with me and dumped me ,, i mean it's hard geting her in the frist plase
some girls are ok with it but don't want to be their if you have srx with a boy friend i know been their dun that ,,

tho a girl i was dating got all excited win i kissed a good friend and he is st8
he just puts up with me kissing him lol ...

:bipride::bibounce::bipride:

[mrplayfuluk]

i have found that after a couple of nights in the sack is best after a good session. Ask them if they are into girls and then tell them that you have had bi experiences. Its best in the right conext like when you are both horned up......

[open2both]

Only my most recent girlfriend has ever accepted it. BUT she's always leery about me "dumping" her for another man and leaving her. I won't but I've always told myself that I could be COMPLETELY monogamous with her alone... but... truth is I need a man every once in a while. She's "accepting" but not real happy.

[artsy girl]

i would think being upfront at the beginning is better.. but that could just be because i'm a woman.
I think i would feel very deceived or lied to if a man waits too long to tell me.

Especially since it's a huge peice of information about the person you are.
I would bring it up sutily (can't spell that)
such as i have friends that are bi..
I'm really into you.. but how would you feel if you knew i was bi
this is just a peice of me .. i need you to know.. it doesn't mean i'm looking for anything else or group sex.

I don't know.. this is just my opinion.. and suggestions

Marriedartsy girl

[pmk7480]

it has always come up when we start talking about past sexual experience or what porn we watch. i tend to date direct women who speak their mind, so they've always asked me directly about sex acts i've done. eventually they ask if i have watched gay porn or have gone down on a guy.

[gfofbiguy]

I met my boyfriend on a personals site. He told me he was bi before we met face to face and I still wanted to meet him. We have been together now for about 3 1/2 years, living together for almost 3 years or so now. I appreciated his honesty and we keep the lines of communication open as well about it ... I know from what he has told me that a lot of women don't want to be with a bi-guy, but by being honest, you can weed out those people and find the person who is accepting of your whole self ;)

Also if she is accepting of it, but still a little leery, there are support groups online for people in mixed orientation relationships that she and/or you as a couple can join that help deal with issues that can pop up (pun intended ;) ). I can direct you to some groups if you need to ... just PM me. Or even direct her to this website - as you can see, there are others that are members here who are str8 and who love our bi-partners :)