Very confused

[Confused_19]

Hey,

I'm sure this forum gets threads like this everyday but it's the only place I can imagine I'd get the accurate answers I'm looking for. I'll try not to sound too silly and just write how I feel.

I am 19 and for a while now the idea of me being a bisexual has floated around my head - the problem is I don't think I fit the criteria for what a true bisexual is.

I definitely know that I like girls. Whenever I walk around town I notice girls and my eyes immediately brush over any other male in the vicinity. I have always found myself able to develop emotional attachment and sexual attraction to girls. I have had girlfriends in the past and have had sex with girls on numerous occasions. When looking at most guys in the street or anywhere else I cannot bring myself to feel the same feelings I have with girls.

HOWEVER, I have the ability to find the male physique and penis attractive in it's own way. Earlier today I read an erotic article online. Alls I can say is that it aroused me in ways which I've never experienced before and made me want to try out what it was talking about.

Here is the link: http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=160215

Do you think I am a severely closeted bisexual who has the potential to develop a loving relationship with another man aswell as a woman? Or do I simply only take pleasure in certain aspects of homosexuality?

Thanks alot,
:)

[Confused_19]

No, I've never had any sexual experience with another guy.

I think I'll have to try it though so as to find out what I'm into once and for all. Would you recommend going into a gay bar and persuading a guy to accompany me to the toilet?

I'll make sure I tell them what I'm looking for whenever I do it aswell - I can imagine how annoying and disappointing it must be for gay guys when the other person is only up for sex.

Thanks for the help I appreciate it,
:)

[UKMCocksucker]

Hi confused, I was in the same boat for years, before i felt i had to try out the bi side, and i then knew that the feelings i had were true and i did like both cock and pussy.

being bi is nothing abnormal it is who we are.

My advice is to take thins slowly and when you decide to take things further, find someone who will go at your pace, do not let yurself be rushed.

good luck in your endeavour.

[Confused_19]

Thanks Cocksucker,

Another question though - do you have both romantic and sexual feelings about men? And when you were just curious did you have both feelings?

[UKMCocksucker]

no I don't, for me it is about the penis, I don't even fancy men particularly.

come in the chatroom and we can chat..

[buck-rogers]

Hey, another 19 year old, I was always hoping I could get a chance to help someone as young as me here.


do you have both romantic and sexual feelings about men? And when you were just curious did you have both feelings?

I myself have romantic feelings towards both men and women, But I don't think I have ever really had any thoughts about having a romantic relationship until this year. But my sexual curiosity sort of sprung at the same time an oppurtunity arose to experiment. All I can say is that you need to be open minded about yourself at this point and maybe realize that you don't know everything about your own sexuality yet, afterall we're pretty young and I'm still learning things about myself. When a fantasy pops into your head don't reject it, instead entertain it. And if you have any queer friends then talking to them may help.

Do you find your mind wandering to homoerotic fantasy often?

[diget]

this is my personal bi test........... at least i worked for me
if you are bi these hentai will turn you on. if your not you'll just have to live with the fact that you read 2 gay hentai.
read this one first
http://lu.scio.us/hentai/albums/naruto-style/2933364

then read this one
http://lu.scio.us/hentai/albums/body-buddy-2_4/2933200

i posted this because reading these hentai really sealed the deal for me. after reading these hentai with out a doubt i knew i was BI.

[Confused_19]

Do you find your mind wandering to homoerotic fantasy often?

Not that often. When I think about a man and look at his face and examine his whole entity I can't feel like I want to have sex with him. I can't imagine myself passionately kissing a man on the lips and enjoying it for example. I don't know whether these feelings will develop over time? Is that what you're suggesting?

I just get off on the idea of being a submissive cocksucker - like the article I posted describes. I think it's the idea of being feminine and feeling self satisfied and dominated...I dunno. I have in the past masturbated anally and even went as far as to buy a prostate tickler dildo thing from a sex shop and some lube. I haven't done that properly in a while though as I've ran out of lube and can't do it without.

So yeah - I wouldn't say I masturbate over men. I've watched gay porn and can't seem to get off over it. BUT - and this is just plain confusing - I can manage to get kinda aroused off watching two really feminine boys - but I dunno whether thats just because they're so close to females - who I definitely like.


this is my personal bi test........... at least i worked for me
if you are bi these hentai will turn you on. if your not you'll just have to live with the fact that you read 2 gay hentai.
read this one first
http://lu.scio.us/hentai/albums/naruto-style/2933364

then read this one
http://lu.scio.us/hentai/albums/body-buddy-2_4/2933200

i posted this because reading these hentai really sealed the deal for me. after reading these hentai with out a doubt i knew i was BI.

Hey diget,

I can see what you mean - the feminine anime dudes in the hentai are kind of attractive. But they're not real so how am I supposed to know whether I'm Bi off reading that?


Do not have sex in a gay bar or club.

This is disgusting and you will be kicked out and embarassed and it's called getting a room.

Just make sure you don't pick up someone psycho who will hurt you or date rape you as this does happen among men.

Also ask him his STD/HIV status.

You could just try getting sucked and kissing the guy since as long as you do not have any open cuts or sores on your penis even if the guy is Poz (HIV+) and lying you will not get HIV from getting oral sex.

Apologies...I didn't realise how disgusting and dangerous going down that road would be.

[FalconAngel]

First of all, to be Bi, you need to have some attraction to both genders. It doesn't matter if you want a relationship with either or, but the sexual attraction must be there.

I don't see myself as having a romantic relationship with men, not that it couldn't happen, but I don't foresee that as being within the realm of possibility for me (your emotional attachments may vary).
I do have romantic feelings for women, though.

If the sex and the fun are there with both genders, then you are Bisexual.

You do not have to have a strong sexual or romantic attraction to one gender or the other, nor do you need a strong sexual/romantic attachment to both. You just need to be attracted, sexually to both and romantically to at least one gender. If you are romantically attracted to both, then that is okay, too.

Here is a little bit of reading and such for you; it should help:

http://www.youthnetsouthampton.org.uk/breakout/kleingrid.php
http://www.technostud.com/public/newsite/klein.html
http://www.sexquest.com/
http://straightguise.blogspot.com/

As far as the hooking up for sex, doing it in the bar is, as others have said, both dangerous and disgusting. Find a guy that is safe and sane, practice safe sex, lay down ground rules of what you are and are not willing to do, let them know that you have never done this before (yes, you are still a virgin in this case, no matter how many women you have slept with), make sure that they understand that and when you go out, have fun.

When I go out with a guy, I treat it pretty much the same as when I go out with a girl. So get to know the guy, talk about things and let there be a connection before you get to the bedroom. That will make things easier for you and reduce some of your stress when the time comes.

Hit the gay clubs, rather than the gay bars. I have found that the clubs are more receptive to bisexuals than the bars are. And you might just end up hooking up with another Bi guy there. And don't be surprised when you discover that some of the hottest girls there are also guys.

[Confused_19]

Thanks - I'll bear all that in mind.

I've just done the sexual orientation test and scored a 0.52 haha. Which is apparently exclusively hetro - but with some tendencies towards being incidentally homo.

[diget]

being attracted to pictures of penis may mean you just like looking at guy porn, but when it comes to touch that's a whole different matter.
if a friend of yours got you alone and pulled out his penis would you be aroused or would you find a feeling of being uncomfortable.
being bi is being a person who is attracted to both sex's, though you may find that after your first sexual encounter with the same sex you no longer find male bodies that arousing. so you confusion is understandable, i think "and many people hear may hate me after saying this" that you will never really know if you are bi until you are in that "alone with a friend" situation. i have had that situation happen to me.......i was shocked that while looking at my friends cock i got extremely aroused and was willing to do almost any thing to get it inside me.
its hard in some situation to figure out if out are just bouncing a fleeting thought around your head or if you are bi.
i sugjest you find a friend that is bi "if you have one" and see if he'll help you FIGURE this out.

[Confused_19]

Thanks Diget - that summed it up pretty much.

I really don't think I am because the majority of the time I feel like a straight guy if that makes sense.

I'll just have to try it.

[diget]

Thanks Diget - that summed it up pretty much.

I really don't think I am because the majority of the time I feel like a straight guy if that makes sense.

I'll just have to try it.

nice, well if you do try it take it slow and find a person you know to be your first.


well, have fun and be safe.
and like i said try to find a person you know to have your first try with.

[buck-rogers]

I don't know whether these feelings will develop over time? Is that what you're suggesting?

Kind of, I know I didn't think of doing anything beyond sex with another boy until recently and now all of a sudden I find myself fantasizing about having a boyfriend to do all that other great stuff with. So you never know how things may evolve for you.