What is commitment in bisexual marriage?

[ichristian11]

Hello. Thanks for reading my thread. I am a marriage and family therapy researcher. I identify as gay. I'm starting an anonymous research project to better understand commitment within marriage between bisexuals and and heterosexuals.

I'm looking to interview those married couples where the bisexual spouse( either the man or the woman) is out to the heterosexual one. It seems like there are lots of married couples that are like this (and a big thank you to those of you who responded to my previous thread and sharing your story).

I decided to do this project because LBGT relationships, especially bisexual ones, are so overlooked by society and in science. I am wondering if there are any couples out there who are interested in participating? I'd welcome any questions or comments you have about the idea and the possibility of participating.

I've attached my resume, to show I'm legit and for your reference.

Thank you,
Christian Jordal

[roy m cox]

um sniff sniff sniff this smells funny :cop:

your pdf duzz not work :bigrin:

[Long Duck Dong]

works for me, I have adobe reader 9.2

[still_shy]

What is commitment in bisexual marriage? Hm...that's a tough one to define, especially if you look at society's version of commitment.

My definition of commitment is definitely not the "norm" but works for me and my husband, as well as the women I have sex with outside of my marriage. My husband knows about my bisexuality, accepts and even embraces it. I am ultimately concerned the most with his thoughts and feelings but try my best to be as caring and considerate to those I am with. Our commitment is steadfast and honest, loving and honorable. I would never lie to him, our openness allows me to be as forthright and honest with him as I need to be without fear of anger or hurt feelings. I give him the same courtesy. I wake up each and every day madly in love with him and can't wait to see what the day brings for us. On the other hand...we do have sex with other women. I date with and without him. We are still committed to each other but are free to enjoy whatever our bodies desire. And, should the time come and I were to fall in love with another woman, it would not change our commitment to each other, it seems to only strengthen the bond we have together. I don't know if these were the answers you were looking for or even if this helps you but here ya go... My :2cents:

[mikey3000]

Still Shy, you described my marriage to a "t".

I don't sneak behind her back. She understands my cravings and does encourage me to explore them. I have gone on dates with and with out her too. She actually helps me look for suitable part/time partners. She also does have bi tendencies, but is not ready to act om them yet, or if ever. That is her choice, but she knows I totally support her too. And she knows I'm not going anywhere, and that I'll never leave her.

If anything, my biness has brought us much closer together, both physically and emotionally. She encourages me to care for the guys I have encounters with, thus thats why there havn't been too many. But when I do have that particular guy I care for, look out!!!:bigrin: And I usually tell her afterward what went on, and it drives her wild with pleasure. After 22 years of being together, our marriage has never been better. We see so many other couples who are miserable and bored, and she is so happy thay we aren't like them.

And again, this type of marriage isn't for everyone, but it works for us splendidly.

[onewhocares]

Still Shy, you described my marriage to a "t".

I don't sneak behind her back. She understands my cravings and does encourage me to explore them. I have gone on dates with and with out her too. She actually helps me look for suitable part/time partners. She also does have bi tendencies, but is not ready to act om them yet, or if ever. That is her choice, but she knows I totally support her too. And she knows I'm not going anywhere, and that I'll never leave her.

If anything, my biness has brought us much closer together, both physically and emotionally. She encourages me to care for the guys I have encounters with, thus thats why there havn't been too many. But when I do have that particular guy I care for, look out!!!:bigrin: And I usually tell her afterward what went on, and it drives her wild with pleasure. After 22 years of being together, our marriage has never been better. We see so many other couples who are miserable and bored, and she is so happy thay we aren't like them.

And again, this type of marriage isn't for everyone, but it works for us splendidly.


My husband and I share this same view.