Girl Talk: Dating A Bi-Guy

[bihim4her]

Check out this article:

http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-girl-talk-dating-a-bi-guy/

He gave no indication he swings both ways. The bedroom stuff was hot. Really hot. There was neck biting and hair pulling. He was aggressive and self-assured, and not at all afraid of my girlie parts. For the record, if that’s half-gay, I’ll swing that way any night of the week.

He likes girls. He likes girls a lot, in fact.

I’m pretty open-minded. In some ways, I was disappointed in myself that I’d been so surprised by his bi-side. I don’t know if it’s because I’m obsessed with “The L Word,” but bi was something I’d mentally assigned to girls, not guys –

To be honest, I’d never before considered it a turn-on to picture a guy I’m into making out with another guy, but there’s just something about this one. I’ve recently confessed to him that he’s like crack—and I’m addicted. (I know, I’m so romantic.) While most of this has to do with his entirely charming self, I think some of it can be attributed to the fact that in a short period of time he’s turned me on to a whole new way of thinking. He’s managed to surprise me, and that in itself is intriguing.

Despite the advice I’ve received from some of my friends, him being bi is nowhere near a dealbreaker for me. I love how open-minded he is. If anything’s going to keep me from dating this guy, it’s distance—not his affinity for dudes.

** above is from the article

[bihim4her]

I'd love to meet a :female: like this...
:tong: :tongue:

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Hell, I'd like to meet a Guy like that! Neck biting, a little rough And bi too? Oh hell yeah, where do I sign up??? lol
Silly Cat

[sasha1216]

I just found out the my boyfriend is bi, I am in a state of panic right now. Don't want to leave him, we have the best relationship. He has been hiding this from me, we have been dating for 8 months. He didn't tell me, which is what is bothering me so much...I had asked multiple times and he always denies. I want to talk to him about this but don't know exactly what to do...any advise?

[littlerayofsunshine]

I just found out the my boyfriend is bi, I am in a state of panic right now. Don't want to leave him, we have the best relationship. He has been hiding this from me, we have been dating for 8 months. He didn't tell me, which is what is bothering me so much...I had asked multiple times and he always denies. I want to talk to him about this but don't know exactly what to do...any advise?

Well If he's denying it then it means He's not the one that told you. So how did you find out? That would be a useful piece of information.

First step is to calm down and remain calm, just to start. You don't have all the necessary information and if you are in a panic, it could be coming across in the way you talk to him. And if he views that negatively it would make him less likely to open up to you.

Remember, you said that the two of you have the best relationship, and he is still the same man.

If he is hiding it, reassurance that you do not intend to leave him and still love him and see him as the same man and then being patient and allow him to open about it. He may not right away because he could potentially be scared or shamed of how you look at him or other numerous reasons (fear of being outed for instance).

For all I know he could be straight and you misinformed. So I am trying to be cautious.

Until more is known, what I have stated is the best advice I have to offer at the moment.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Ok, first of all, I'm confused. (Which is nothing new, its just me) How did you find out he is Bi, and why are you panicing so much? He was probably Afraid to tell you, judging by the state you're in right now. Maybe he was afraid you'd freak out and walk out on him. What you need to do is calm the heck down and talk this over with him openly and frankly, and come to a peaceful medium. Why does this info make him any less the man that you know and love? Are you homo or bi-phobic? Or was it the fact that he kept it from you in the first place? Maybe he was waiting to see if there was a good time to tell you, or if he was going to give up Being bi just for you?
Think about these factors before you go flying off the handle and make the mistake of losing out on someone you love.
Cat

[bihim4her]

I just found out the my boyfriend is bi, I am in a state of panic right now. Don't want to leave him, we have the best relationship. He has been hiding this from me, we have been dating for 8 months. He didn't tell me, which is what is bothering me so much...I had asked multiple times and he always denies. I want to talk to him about this but don't know exactly what to do...any advise?

maybe you should read the original link in this forum...

also for a point of view.. feel free to read my profile
from a man's prospective.

You just may be a lucky lady.. if you can handle that title and believe in him.

[citystyleguy]

...so read the article, nice to see a lady that while initially panicky, can grab a hold of herself, giving serious consideration of keeping the guy; from the one-sided description, he sounds pretty solid (sex sounds great, tho'!!!)

find it a bit strange that she thought of bisexuality as a girl-thing, what's with that? possibly too much of the hollywood male-centric ideas of what sex is supposed to be, one-sided mag articles, who know!

however, it doesnt seem all that unusual given the women on this site that are hetero, dealing with and/or accepting their guy's bi-ness.

read your profile, this is as good a group to see if you can hit it off with an understanding and accepting woman, hoping here that you can find someone, somewhere!

[bihim4her]

...so read the article, :cool:

:bibounce:

read your profile, this is as good a group to see if you can hit it off with an understanding and accepting woman, hoping here that you can find someone, somewhere!


Ah shucks... thanks citystyleguy :bigrin:

[bi4asplay]

Check out this article:

http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-girl-talk-dating-a-bi-guy/

He gave no indication he swings both ways. The bedroom stuff was hot. Really hot. There was neck biting and hair pulling. He was aggressive and self-assured, and not at all afraid of my girlie parts. For the record, if that’s half-gay, I’ll swing that way any night of the week.

He likes girls. He likes girls a lot, in fact.

I’m pretty open-minded. In some ways, I was disappointed in myself that I’d been so surprised by his bi-side. I don’t know if it’s because I’m obsessed with “The L Word,” but bi was something I’d mentally assigned to girls, not guys –

To be honest, I’d never before considered it a turn-on to picture a guy I’m into making out with another guy, but there’s just something about this one. I’ve recently confessed to him that he’s like crack—and I’m addicted. (I know, I’m so romantic.) While most of this has to do with his entirely charming self, I think some of it can be attributed to the fact that in a short period of time he’s turned me on to a whole new way of thinking. He’s managed to surprise me, and that in itself is intriguing.

Despite the advice I’ve received from some of my friends, him being bi is nowhere near a dealbreaker for me. I love how open-minded he is. If anything’s going to keep me from dating this guy, it’s distance—not his affinity for dudes.

** above is from the article

It could well be the he waited to tell you until he was felt sure that he wanted you in his life. Why tell someone about that part of your makeup before you know that about them. Now if you have met someone that you know before hand is OK with it After the second drink could be a good time could be a good time to hit on it. Jut my 2 cents.

[ThatGuyNextDoor]

I just found out the my boyfriend is bi, I am in a state of panic right now. Don't want to leave him, we have the best relationship. He has been hiding this from me, we have been dating for 8 months. He didn't tell me, which is what is bothering me so much...I had asked multiple times and he always denies. I want to talk to him about this but don't know exactly what to do...any advise?

I rarely post comments on this website but I feel compelled to respond to your request for advice.

I'll throw my two cents into the discussion and make the assumption he actually is bisexual. People seem to be very fearful of bisexual males because they assume they're promiscuous. As a bi-male, I've avoided telling girlfriends because it results in panic and fear.

Your boyfriend is the same person you enjoyed being with for 8 months, what difference does it make now? Being bisexual doesn't mean he's on the "down low" having anonymous unprotected sex in bathroom stalls at seedy adult video parlors no more than being heterosexual means you're banging your boss and all your old boyfriends. It just means he can be sexually attracted to men as well as women, it doesn't mean he HAS to have sex with others. If he were heterosexual, would you fear that he is having sex with other women? Bisexuality does not equal promiscuous.

Relax, again assuming he really is bi-sexual, he's the same guy you initially decided to bring into your life. He hasn't changed, you have. To be quite honest, your fear and confusion is validating his reluctance to be open about his sexuality. Trust me, I'm not embarrassed about being bisexual but I don't discuss it because it makes others uncomfortable. The problem isn't mine, it's their's. There are many, many men and women who are bisexual and it does not mean they will get bored with their partners and move on. It just means they're wired slightly differently than you are.

Here's my advice, don't panic, don't judge. Look into his eyes and love him for the person he is, not for what you fear he'll do or fear he has done. Nothing in your relationship has changed, nothing about him has changed, only your perceptions of him have changed. Embrace him as the unique wonderful human he is and he will do the same to you. After all as a bisexual, every person on the planet is a potential partner for him and out of the 7 billion people on the world, he chose you.

Well, after writing this, I realized this is a very old thread. I guess the advice is pointless now.

[ThatGuyNextDoor]

Hell, I'd like to meet a Guy like that! Neck biting, a little rough And bi too? Oh hell yeah, where do I sign up??? lol
Silly Cat

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