I was on a certain bi guy site this evening and came across this forum thread. It explains why we have lost friends over time it stems back from last fall to now, and shows why our favourite troll is bad for the community and scares good new people off and sends them back to the closet. Its unedited and cut and paste from there so you can see for yourself...
We have to protect this site so people will want to stick around!
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Holy Crap!, Just peeked at bisexual.com!
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Wow.
I looked around a bit and read the first article I came across... Those people are just... angry.
I don't know how else to put it, but there is such a negative vibe there that I came running back here for comfort and support. A couple of concepts that most of those people obviously have never heard of...
All I can say is that it is exactly the attitudes of some of those people that keep me securely locked in the closet. With the light off. Hugging my sweeper.
Sheesh.
Legion XXXIV
Believe me Indy...I won't giggle,
What's happened to that site is tragic. What's happened there is what has bought me here and has given me an appreciation for all this site has to offer. There was a time that I could claim that site as my "stomping grounds" If you sort through the many topics contained within it's archives you'd find the bits and pieces contained and intertwined within collectively of well over a 1000 of my posts and threads that reflected a journey that lasted well over a extended period of four years. My journey. It was an area of discovery for all that had an inclination towards understanding this journey we are engaged upon….Not anymore….
I have a lot of respect for the person who began the site with the ideal of creating an online community...although not shy about his bisexuality you'd find him an individual very interested in Bisexual issues and on a personal basis, he would find comfort in the community that we have here….but Bisexual.com is just one site that he has claim too …and unfortunately he cannot control or chooses not to, those that come with an intent to disrupt, have more or less destroyed all the good things that once took place there. There have been many of us that have contributed in positive ways towards making it what it once was… that have now left there and gone elsewhere.…The love, compassion, understanding, and sense of community that you feel here…was once felt there…but has vanished like those of us that have finally moved on to higher ground…..It's a heartbreaker, but illustrates the point I was making the other day in the thread regarding "Religion, Politics, and Sexual Orientation……It’s not worth the serenity you’ll find here.
Peace
Chapter1
I was a member of bisexual.com for um....I think it was all of about an hour. lol. I joined and posted and intro, some guy in his early twenties deemed fit to psycho-analyse me and accused me of being obsessed - WTF? So I left the site. I returned a couple of months later, saw the flame throwing and offered the only response that I could, "kthnxbye". It's sad because it's all too obvious that the site wasn't always like that - perhaps now you'll understand why it is that with some suggestions I'm as protective over this site as I am...because once dynamics change and things go to shit...well, I don't know if there's another site like this one out there.
....though admittedly, I'll be the first to say that the reason why this site is the piece of heaven that it is, is largely due to the members....THANK YOU for making this place what it is.
Guybi
I actually didn't know that bisexual.com existed. My first encounter with a website on bisexuality was actually Bitheway's blog, which then led me here. I found this place to be very welcoming and accepts the fact that we have one thing in common despite our cultural, religious, social and physical differences. That is why I never bothered to go and find another website because this website has been more than sufficient to give me the necessary support I need. Luckily, for me, finding such a great place to be in my initial attempts to find support has been most encouraging for me to accept me for who I really am. I am sorry to see that you guys had to go through such treatment over there. I'm glad though that you managed to make your way here in the end.
Slapmyself silly 8
Seeing this thread motivated me to go look. It has not changed over there. It seems like a case of "A few bad apples", but man are those apples are really bad. Like toxicly bad.
I have never understood why anyone would do that. I know that some people get impassioned about some things. I know some people are looking for attention. I don't understand what anyone would get out of being rude and uncivilized. Most would never behave that way in person.
What is it about the internet that brings out the worst in some people? Can it really be simply the lack of consequences? Are some people only motivated to be nice by the threat of retribution? Rhetorical questions, I know.
It does highlight the way this site is run. I am grateful to the moderators for the atmosphere they have created and maintain.
DC134
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